Been married for 25 years to a wonderful man but he has no sex drive at all and we have not had any initimate contact for approx 15 years. I am 47 he is 52. He knows how unhappy not having any sex live makes me as I have brought it up many times over the years. I tried to bury my feelings but I am a sensual woman and last year a man who I knew made a pass at me, we kissed etc. and he basically re-lit the fires. I love and care for my husband but am not sure it is enough anymore. I want and need to be loved and desired as a woman again. I feel in a very dark place all the time now and don't know what to do. We have tried counselling etc. but nothing works and he is happy with the status quo. He has stated that he would never allow me to remain in the marriage and have a sexual relationship outside of it.

Your husband says he 'would never allow' an affair?
He is being very selfish if he won't provide any of the intimacy most couples desire and need.
If you can see where morality and common sense might forgive a very discreet affair, I see no reason why you shouldn't at least think about it that way - unless you can bring yourself to be on your own again.
(Many will disagree with me on this.)

Can he just not have sex ? Medical issue, or will he just not do it ?

Do you self pleasure yourself ?

Know you asked this question a while back,but I'm in the same sitution.but with me it started the day we got married, my husband didn't even want sex the night we married. So I have lived with this for 23 years. Now I did met a man and I did cheat but it was just as bad ,so after many years of nothing I have decided to divorce my husband and a big part of it is a no sex life,plus many other thing.well after a lot of soul searching I can't live like this.I need passion and love so I'm getting out. You need to decide wither to stay in this or get out ,if it was me I would get out and find love,I'm 55 and walking away.