Hey,

So I recently moved home, got back to my old job and went to my old co worker's birthday party. Long story short we both had a lot to drink and hooked up. However, the next day we laid in bed for seven hours just talking about anything and everything. He said he wouldn't rather be anywhere else he actually had a great time just talking to me until 4 in the afternoon. He drove me home and messaged me today asking how my night was but then said he was going to kidnap me sometime this week. I don't know if he thinks I'll just be a booty call now? He invited me out to his buddy's cabin for the long weekend coming up and I said I was down to go.. but I'd rather this stemmed into something more than a friend with benefits kind of thing. I know you can't make him necessarily work for it.. since he's had it.. but how do you handle this in such a manner that he still has respect for me? Don't most guys take it as an insult if you want to still see them but nothing more? Help please!

Gee, you talked until for the next day and you think he just wants sex?
Plus he contacted you the next day?
Sounds like someone who likes you to me. But we aren't there, so you have to decide.
But I would want to know who else is going to be at the cabin. I would want to know if he will take you home if you aren't having a good time (since you won't have your own car, right)? I would want to see him once or twice before that 'long weekend' (where in the world has a long weekend coming up?) just to have a sense of knowing him better before being somewhere where it might not be easy to go home. Say so! Say even though you jumped into bed with him, you were drunk and now want to be more normally cautious.

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Originally Posted by joypulv

Gee, you talked til 4 the next day and you think he just wants sex?
Plus he contacted you the next day?
Sounds like someone who likes you to me. But we aren't there, so you have to decide.
But I would want to know who else is going to be at the cabin. I would want to know if he will take you home if you aren't having a good time (since you won't have your own car, right)? I would want to see him once or twice before that 'long weekend' (where in the world has a long weekend coming up?) just to have a sense of knowing him better before being somewhere where it might not be easy to go home. Say so! Say even though you jumped into bed with him, you were drunk and now want to be more normally cautious.

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He's a really nice guy I'm sure he would have literally no problem taking me home if I'm not having a good time but I met everyone at his birthday and they're a great group of people so I see no problem there. I'm thinking with the whole text saying he wants to kidnap me one night this week he might just want me to come over.. Should I turn that down? Or go? Don't know how to play this field I've never been in a situation like this :/

Is all of his "dates" just getting together for sex ? Why not counter with some offer for a date out somewhere ?

But what is he suppose to think, meet at party and end up in bed all night and day. I would be thinking booty call and most men would think the same.

He sounds like he likes you, if he didn't he wouldn't have talked all day after sex. He would have gotten up and left... Its OK to ask him out. If he wants to kidnap you say sure if you'll take me to dinner and a movie.. Then DON'T have sex. If he still wants you for the weekend go and has fun...