So I'm just a normal human being like everyone else. I have a heart, lungs ,ects... I just came across this problem. Scociety tends to focus on looks, and the negatives . For example you see a fat, short, balding woman walking towards you at the store, and you think "oh my, she is so unattactive" then you see that instead of walking towards you she walks past you and goes to a man. He hugs and kisses her. Could it be her father? Or husband? Whoever that man may be he obviously loves her for who she is. I also noticed that not only do children and teens do these things,but adults as well. I've over heard people talk about others. My mother is guilty of doing that. I admit to being guilty of doing so. I am a human too, I do judge others at first sight. But I try my best to look past that and get to know someone. I have been hurt , judged , called names.it was pretty bad at one point in my life I cut myself and had all these negative thoughts in my head. I would cry my eyes out wishing against hope that one day I would just wake up and be considered "attractive". I am very grateful to have had siblings and family comfort me. That experience thought me that humans are who we are... all of us judge. We are not perfect. I just wonder... why are we this way?

Most people really are not like that, or if they are, it is merely minor gossip but easily change their opinions when they get to know someone. Most adults will date and marry people because of looks.

Now as in food, some like darker, some lighter, but normally it is personallity that makes the difference.

I think you are over typing people with some first impressions of people they never talk to , just see in passing, when "looks" is all one has to start an opinion.

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Originally Posted by Fr_Chuck

Most people really are not like that, or if they are, it is merely minor gossip but easily change their opinions when they get to know someone. Most adults will date and marry people because of looks.

Now as in food, some like darker, some lighter, but normally it is personallity that makes the difference.

I think you are over typing people with some first impressions of people they never talk to , just see in passing, when "looks" is all one has to start an opinion.

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Thank you for your reply , I will keep it in mind

I was watching the "March of Nations" during the opening ceremonies for the Olympics and remarked to my son at how beautiful the women were and how handsome the men, no matter what country they were from or what color they were. Then, like Fr_Chuck says, go over to Walmart and watch the people come and go from the store. I could probably count on two hands the people who are fit and beautiful (and that might be stretching it).

And yet every one of those people at Walmart probably has a partner or lover or spouse and probably children. Looks are only MAYBE what attracts us to each other, although other qualities do too.

[quote=Wondergirl;3214881]I was watching the "March of Nations" during the opening ceremonies for the Olympics and remarked to my son at how beautiful the women were and how handsome the men, no matter what country they were from or what color they were. Then, like Fr_Chuck says, go over to Walmart and watch the people come and go from the store. I could probably count on two hands the people who are fit and beautiful (and that might be stretching it).

And yet every one of those people at Walmart probably has a partner or lover or spouse and probably children. Looks are only MAYBE what attracts us to each other, although other qualities do too.[quote]

That was touching , thank you