I have a girlfriend in the usmc boot we plan on being married after but her months is in the field what does that mean to me will it be harder because of all the men she will be with out there for long periods

That's your fear talking to you my friend, and worrying about what ifs is a waste when you can just love and support with trust, and confidence and not let negative feeling make you act like a jealous boyfriend.

Sure she will be around a lot of men, but don't detract her from seeing you in the best light possible by always putting your best foot forward, in thoughts, words, and actions, when dealing with her, and this situation.

Just be cool, calm, and collected and in control, and have nothing to apologize for. Even when you are a pile of nerves on the inside.

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Originally Posted by talaniman

Thats your fear talking to you my friend, and worrying about what ifs is a waste when you can just love and support with trust, and confidence and not let negative feeling make you act like a jealous boyfriend.

Sure she will be around a lot of men, but don't detract her from seeing you in the best light possible by always putting your best foot forward, in thoughts, words, and actions, when dealing with her, and this situation.

Just be cool, calm, and collected and in control, and have nothing to apologize for. Even when you are a pile of nerves on the inside.

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I just don't want to spoil her dreams she wanted to b a marine Long before me and I have a career now so how do we follow our dreams without hurting the others

She isn't hurting you by following her dreams so why think she will? What, you are that insecure about her, or what? Its not her, its YOU!!

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Originally Posted by talaniman

She isn't hurting you by following her dreams so why think she will? What, you are that insecure about her, or what? Its not her, its YOU!!!

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I am not insecure about her I support her 100 percent but I am smart enough to know the military life is diff them civilian. I would never do anything to hurt her dream every marine male I have spoken to has told me to relax and give it some time they have also told me marines marry marines I also know that marriage is hard something you have to work at and I want to I just don't want to fail because I was innorgant to the military life style I don't want to be part of the 85 percent that end up in devorice so yes I guess it is me

Nothing wrong with being afraid to fail, we all are to one degree or another. Keep your eyes on the prize, and not the obstacles to it.

Relax, and go for it. Helps to stop thinking about what if this, or what if that. Nobody's perfect, mistakes are inevitable in us humans, marines or civilians.

If one person is in the military and that is to be their dream, often the other will need to find a dream that allows them to travel, perhaps something you can do work online, or one in sales that will work almost anywhere in the world.

Unless you want to spend all of your life apart, you will have to be willing to move to where she is stationed ( when you can)

That is your choice

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Originally Posted by Fr_Chuck

If one person is in the military and that is to be their dream, often the other will need to find a dream that allows them to travel, perhaps something you can do work online, or one in sales that will work almost anywhere in the world.

Unless you want to spend all of your life apart, you will have to be willing to move to where she is stationed ( when you can)

That is your choice

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I was afraid of the answer I quess I knew that was it so I quess it is time to look in the mirror and ask myself do I want to give up my dream for hers that is the hard one both having worked so hard to get where we are and then thinking what if wow this really sucks I was hoping to find another male who is married to a female marine but I guess there isn't that many but thanks anyway