I am trying to get out of a relationship I have been having with a married man. I did not know he was married at first, he won't leave me alone, I gave him an ultimatium today, like I expected he did not come through. He lies all the time, the last lie was that he was working till 2am and that is why he stood me up. I called his work and they said he left at 7pm, I asked him to show me his time card which he never produced. I am so tired of all this. I tell him its over and he threatens suicide,etc. what can I do

When someone threatens suicide 99% of time it's a cry for help and nothing comes out of it.

I would pack my bags and leave.

Threatening suicide is his problem. He obviously doesn't mean it and won't go through with it because he's a coward so why even take it seriously.

So if you want to get out you decide and make it stick. Tell him one last time your done and not to contact you or your going to file a restraining order against him. He's not going to dare have his wife find out that he's got a restaining order against you because then she'd find out everything else. He'll stop at this point and leave you be.

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Originally Posted by chuff

Threatening suicide is his problem. He obviously doesn't mean it and won't go through with it because he's a coward so why even take it seriously.

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I agree with Chuff.

I once was involved with a guy who threatened to kill himself every time I wanted out. I was miserable the entire time. Then finally one day, he called me to tell me he was breaking up with me because he met someone else and he wanted to be with her.

I was away attending the university and he found someone 17 years older who would support him and take care of him.

Never stay in a relationship in which you are being controlled and manipulated. It's never worth it. And if he does try to kill himself, know that it's HIS choice, not yours. I doubt if he will though, he will most likely look for someone else to torture.

Hi K,
I would have to concur with those who answered your question-It is time to pick up and WALK. He is not concerned about you nor will he committ suicide. It is unfortunate but I think he is using you, as my ex did. I know it is easier said than done but tell him he has the right string but the wrong yo-yo. He is manipulating your emotions and your love for him.

Walk Sis

JAZZIE

You leave by not calling him and telling you are are leaving him, you just leave him, and don't call him back, don't see him, don't answer his calls and move one. ( I am sure he will very shortly with someone new, cheating husbands find it easy to find someone new.
And often they will be cheating on you with someone, while he cheats on his wife with you.

He will tell you anything he can to keep this over you, Personally you need to leave him and his wife needs to know.