Being a grandma/babysitter (retired)
The only time I hear from my daughter or son in law is when they want us to babysit their 8 yr old so they can get away. If we say no, then I don't hear from her for weeks and I start feeling guilty about what did I do that made her mad. It's been this way for years and I am very frustrated as she is not the type of woman that is open unless it is her problem that she needs to talk about. I want to call her but then if I do, it opens the door for us babysitting and we are retired and my husband gets mad at me for breaking down.
What do you recommend I do, call her or ignore her and keeping peace with hubby?