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  • Jul 27, 2012, 04:07 PM
    dittoloves
    Can my ex girlfriend get full custody of our son?
    My son is four now and me and his mom haven't been together since day one. I've tried being there for him but she makes it impossible. So I haven't seen him for a year know. We just finished going to court for child support and the judge ordered me to pay $600 dollars a month I've never refused to pay but now I don't know how I'm going to pay my rent and all my bills I only make 10.00 dollars a hour, she makes 4,000 a month. Know she said she's going to get full custody and there's nothing I can do cause I haven't seen him in years she's saying I've never seen him. Can she get full custody? What can I do? I feel like my lifes not mine anymore...
  • Jul 27, 2012, 05:55 PM
    JudyKayTee
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by dittoloves View Post
    My son is four now and me and his mom haven't been together since day one. I've tryed being there for him but she makes it impossible. so i haven't seen him for a year know. we just finished going to court for child support and the judge ordered me to pay $600 dollars a month i've never refused to pay but now i dont know how im going to pay my rent and all my bills i only make 10.00 dollars a hour, she makes 4,000 a month. know she said she's going to get full custody and theres nothing i can do cause i haven't seen him in years she's saying i've never seen him. can she get full custody? what can i do? i feel like my lifes not mine anymore...

    It sounds like she has full custody. Did you ask for visitation? If you have ordered visitation and she doesn't let you see him, take her to Court for violating the Order. If you don't have visitation, get it.

    How did you get ordered to pay such high support? What State?
  • Aug 6, 2012, 04:36 PM
    aimee225
    How are you paying such a high amount a month? ( I'm from England and for 1 child you pay £21. Something like that.
  • Aug 6, 2012, 04:51 PM
    JudyKayTee
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by aimee225 View Post
    How are you paying such a high amount a month? ( im from England and for 1 child you pay £21. Something like that.
    21 Pounds is about $33/US - how does anyone support a child on $33 a month?
  • Aug 6, 2012, 04:53 PM
    aimee225
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by JudyKayTee View Post
    21 Pounds is about $33/US - how does anyone support a child on $33 a month?
    Sorry, a week.
  • Aug 6, 2012, 04:56 PM
    JudyKayTee
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by aimee225 View Post
    Sorry, a week.

    How is support calculated in the UK? Percentage? Formula? Something else?
  • Aug 6, 2012, 05:00 PM
    aimee225
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by JudyKayTee View Post
    How is support calculated in the UK? Percentage? Formula? Something else?
    I have no idea.. I should know but.. I just am not interested. I get what he's told to give me.
    And carry on.
    I am finacially stable in life, I work around being a mum
    Not on benefits
    Just my sons dad pays that for my son.

    Sorry this isn't my post I just thought the amount was high that's all.
  • Aug 6, 2012, 05:03 PM
    AK lawyer
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by JudyKayTee View Post
    How is support calculated in the UK? Percentage? Formula? Something else?
    "...
    The basic assessment is based on a percentage of the payer’s net income (after tax, National Insurance Contributions and pension contributions) at 15%, 20% or 25% for 1, 2 or 3 or more children respectively (“basic rate”).
    ... "
    Child Maintenance through the CSA

    Methinks Aimee doesn't quite know what she's talking about. :)
  • Aug 6, 2012, 05:05 PM
    aimee225
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by AK lawyer View Post
    "...
    The basic assessment is based on a percentage of the payer’s net income (after tax, National Insurance Contributions and pension contributions) at 15%, 20% or 25% for 1, 2 or 3 or more children respectively (“basic rate”).
    ..."
    Child Maintenance through the CSA

    Methinks Aimee doesn't quite know what she's talking about. :)

    Well.. As I said.. I don't know ;)
    I just get on with my own life and that's what CSA take from him and into my bank.
    I know that :D
    Please.. Be nice :)
  • Aug 6, 2012, 05:47 PM
    AK lawyer
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by aimee225 View Post
    Well.. As i said.. I dont know ;)
    I just get on with my own life and thats what CSA take from him and into my bank.
    I know that :D
    Please.. Be nice :)
    Sorry. I just call it like it is.

    I'm thinking that somehow you are not getting the child maintenance to which you are entitled.
  • Aug 6, 2012, 05:54 PM
    aimee225
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by AK lawyer View Post
    Sorry. I just call it like it is.

    I'm thinking that somehow you are not getting the child maintenance to which you are entitled.
    Really? :/ he gets something like £800 a month after tax I think I may not be sure!
    And I'm told I should be getting £21 a week for 1 child.
  • Aug 6, 2012, 05:54 PM
    JudyKayTee
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by aimee225 View Post
    Well.. As i said.. I dont know ;)
    I just get on with my own life and thats what CSA take from him and into my bank.
    I know that :D
    Please.. Be nice :)

    You are getting shortchanged - this kind of revelation is what happens when you come on and question an answer on the legal boards.
  • Aug 6, 2012, 05:57 PM
    aimee225
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by JudyKayTee View Post
    You are getting shortchanged - this kind of revelation is what happens when you come on and question an answer on the legal boards.
    I was only asking about that amount he has to pay. I didn't want to say wrong or right.
    As you can tell.. I have no idea about this kind of thing.. Seems everyone else gets more or better than I do.
    How is this fair! Hah. Never mind as I said I get on with my own life and bring my boy up alone
  • Aug 6, 2012, 06:07 PM
    JudyKayTee
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by aimee225 View Post
    I was only asking about that amount he has to pay. I didnt want to say wrong or right.
    As you can tell.. I have no idea about this kind of thing.. Seems everyone else gets more or better than i do.
    How is this fair! Hah. Never mind as i said i get on with my own life and bring my boy up alone

    This isn't the "fair" board. This is the legal board. If you are not getting support in accordance with the law, then you need to go back to Court and ask for an increase.

    And if you don't need the money to bring up your boy alone put it in the bank to pay for his college/university education.
  • Aug 6, 2012, 06:15 PM
    aimee225
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by JudyKayTee View Post
    This isn't the "fair" board. This is the legal board. If you are not getting support in accordance with the law, then you need to go back to Court and ask for an increase.

    And if you don't need the money to bring up your boy alone put it in the bank to pay for his college/university education.
    I do he's got a nice little thing going for him. Im sorry I never meant to start an awkwar argument here.
    Eek

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