She suddenly flipped out one night and said that she was done. She called her mom from 1600 miles away to come get her. She didn’t tell me hardly anything. Her mom shows up and she says she just needs to be gone a few weeks but takes all her belongings. She just says she can’t deal with me not being there for her and acting like I don’t love her. Now she’s begging me to go with her and that she wants to be a family together when she had just told me she was done, sells her car and will be 1600 miles away from me when she’s 8 months pregnant. I just want to know what’s really going on?

Well most likely you were not being as supportive as she wanted, most likely she wanted to be around her mom to help with the baby, most likely she wants you to come to where she is, and expected you to when she left.

So do you want to be with her or not?

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well most likely you were not being as supportive as she wanted, most likely she wanted to be around her mom to help with the baby, most likely she wants you to come to where she is, and expected you to when she left.

So do you want to be with her or not?

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I do want to be with her. Do yoh think she really loves me and wants to be with me whe. She said she was done and is moving 1600 miles away from me? And its not eve. Bothering her to leave me I feel like

I'm going to say something really harsh: ONLY CLUELESS PEOPLE GO ONLINE THINKING TOTAL STRANGERS KNOW 'WHAT'S GOING ON.'

As Fr_Chuck says, not being supportive... That includes being extra helpful, sensitive to what is needed during a pregnancy without having it pounded into your brain, communicating, planning for the next year at least, doing shopping/cooking/laundry/cleaning - AND letting her know she is beautiful even when she looks like a whale. Did you do any of that?

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I'm going to say something really harsh: ONLY CLUELESS PEOPLE GO ONLINE THINKING TOTAL STRANGERS KNOW 'WHAT'S GOING ON.'

As Fr_Chuck says, not being supportive... That includes being extra helpful, sensitive to what is needed during a pregnancy without having it pounded into your brain, communicating, planning for the next year at least, doing shopping/cooking/laundry/cleaning - AND letting her know she is beautiful even when she looks like a whale. Did you do any of that?

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hmmm. Feel like I'm talking to her nnow... yes I did do that. I also worked my of to support us. Got us a bigger place for when the baby comes,bottom line is should I still be with her after she told me she is done, sells her car, and moves 1600 miles away. Would it be a good idea to be with her or just end it g?

When I was pregnant all I wanted was my family and I also said and did things I didn't really mean not saying it was right but honestly here's two things you need to answer 1. do you love her. 2. are you going to step up and be a dad that this baby needs and guess what hun there's your answer.

She will never forgive you, nor will you forgive yourself for missing the birth of your child. Most females want mom, and family around during this time, so keep working, keep saving, and keep in touch especially with mom, so you can be there for the big event, and then see what happens next.

Don't panic, females are weird and wacky during a life changing event as child birth. Its not as easy as some make it look.

My father once told me when a woman is pregnant that it's a mans job to sit there, look concerned, and do as he is told, no matter what it is, or when, and keep your mouth shut, no matter what. That's what I'm telling you.

Be glad its not you with life inside you, and just out of gratitude that its NOT you, NEVER argue with a pregnant female, NEVER, because YOU did it to her in the first place. Yeah its crazy, but you have the easy part.