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  • Jul 25, 2012, 05:21 PM
    redlipsticklena
    When is it 'okay' to commit suicide over problems
    I am learning disabled, unemployed and been looking for work for over a year and a half now. I do not have much work experience. Sigh. I have come to point where I am on public assistance but still unable to pay my utility bills. They are going to shut everything off the day after tomorrow. No air no phone nothing.

    I know people have a lot of problems in this world, but I reach my wits end. I try to get on programs to help myself but nothing pans out, just keep getting run around. Family have give me money in the past and cannot ask them anymore. I have no friends.

    I want to know when it's considered okay to commit suicide if you cannot handle your outstanding bills and have no ways to remedy them?

    Everyone want to say 'oh don't do it,' but yet I have no other solutions.
  • Jul 25, 2012, 05:38 PM
    ashleyking33
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by redlipsticklena View Post
    I am learning disabled, unemployed and been looking for work for over a year and a half now. I do not have much work experience. Sigh. I have come to point where I am on public assistance but still unable to pay my utility bills. they are going to shut everything off the day after tomorrow. no air no phone nothing.

    i know people have a lot of problems in this world, but i reach my wits end. i try to get on programs to help myself but nothing pans out, just keep getting run around. family have give me money in the past and cannot ask them anymore. i have no friends.

    i want to know when it's considered okay to commit suicide if you cannot handle your outstanding bills and have no ways to remedy them?

    everyone want to say 'oh don't do it,' but yet i have no other solutions.

    PLEAAAAASSSSSEEEEEE DO NOT DO IT!! You would hurt your family and you would hurt me. :( would it be possible to move in with one of your family members? At least you would have a place to live and food to eat, and while you are there you could look up jobs and stuff to get back on your feet :) stay strong
  • Jul 25, 2012, 05:41 PM
    redlipsticklena
    No I cannot live with them, there's not many of them in the first place but made it clear I cannot stay with them in the past. :(

    Also like I said every one say 'don't do it' but I don't care anymores. I have NO other solution for these issue. I really don't care about 'hurting' other people how is that going to help me? It's not. So who cares what they think they are not the ones in my situation. Ty.
  • Jul 25, 2012, 05:47 PM
    Wondergirl
    Would you do me a favor and wait?
  • Jul 25, 2012, 06:05 PM
    ashleyking33
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by redlipsticklena View Post
    no i cannot live with them, there's not many of them in the first place but made it clear i cannot stay with them in the past. :(

    also like i said every one say 'don't do it' but i don't care anymores. i have NO other solution for these issue. i really don't care about 'hurting' other people how is that going to help me? it's not. so who cares what they think they are not the ones in my situation. ty.

    Your right, not hurting people isn't going to help you but I wanted you to know that you mean something to someone. :) would it be possible to go to a homeless shelter? :/
  • Jul 26, 2012, 03:30 PM
    redlipsticklena
    I have got money from an agency to fix this problem! If I had commit suicide I never would have fix it. But every time I have a problem I cannot fix my mind just goes to suicide. Do not know how to stop this. Sigh. Ty.
  • Jul 26, 2012, 04:01 PM
    Fr_Chuck
    The issue here is, if you are on government assitance, you can get a free phone, ask your case working, You should get food stamps, medicaid and so on. So you may have to find a boarding or rooming house, even a shelter, but we all have to start over somewhere
  • Jul 26, 2012, 10:58 PM
    redlipsticklena
    Yes I need learn to start over but just want to give up instead
  • Jul 26, 2012, 11:26 PM
    teacherjenn4
    People who live through suicide attempts always are grateful because they realize their problems weren't as bad as they seemed. Pick up the phone and call a suicide hotline. The operator can connect you. I bet they can refer you to the services you need. Please live!
  • Jul 27, 2012, 08:47 AM
    JudyKayTee
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by redlipsticklena View Post
    yes i need learn to start over but just want to give up instead


    I don't understand how you can be suicidal here and over here (https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/adult-...-686278-2.html) concerned about your sexuality and dating.

    At any rate I'm sure you've heard it all. My best friend killed herself (suicide doesn't even come close to describing it - she KILLED herself) and has left scars on all of us, her friends, her family. Maybe you care about the people around you, maybe you don't.

    Would her problems have resolved themselves - I'll never know. Neither will she.

    And the World lost a good person who was having a bad time.
  • Jul 27, 2012, 09:18 AM
    redlipsticklena
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by JudyKayTee View Post
    I don't understand how you can be suicidal here and over here (https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/adult-...-686278-2.html) concerned about your sexuality and dating.

    At any rate I'm sure you've heard it all. My best friend killed herself (suicide doesn't even come close to describing it - she KILLED herself) and has left scars on all of us, her friends, her family. Maybe you care about the people around you, maybe you don't.

    Would her problems have resolved themselves - I'll never know. Neither will she.

    And the World lost a good person who was having a bad time.


    You don't understand it but I do. You can be both suicidal and still have to live in this world with these people everyday and concern yourself with the samethings they do until you do die.

    Sorry hears about your best friend. Nothing I can really say about her situation because I don't know her or her circumstance why she believe it was in her best intersest kill herself.
  • Jul 27, 2012, 10:00 AM
    teacherjenn4
    Are you taking any medications to deal with Asperger's?
  • Jul 27, 2012, 10:06 AM
    redlipsticklena
    There is no medications for a.s. I take a depression medicine and anti anxiety medicine. That's it
  • Jul 27, 2012, 10:09 AM
    teacherjenn4
    You may need an adjustment on your meds if you are suicidal and on depression and anti-anxiety meds.
  • Jul 27, 2012, 04:25 PM
    redlipsticklena
    They always adjusts them and doesn't matter never does anything anyway.
  • Jul 27, 2012, 04:27 PM
    JudyKayTee
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by redlipsticklena View Post
    they always adjusts them and doesnt matter never does anything anyway.


    You have a negative response to every suggestion. I do agree with the other thread - you don't want help.

    You just want to feel sorry for yourself.

    Are you going to lose computer access when your utiities go off?
  • Jul 27, 2012, 04:31 PM
    redlipsticklena
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by JudyKayTee View Post
    You have a negative response to every suggestion. I do agree with the other thread - you don't want help.

    You just want to feel sorry for yourself.

    Are you going to lose computer access when your utiities go off?



    It wasn't a 'negative' response it was the damn truth. Like I said in the other thread I don't know what your problem is and don't care. If you don't want to stay on the topics here then go to ANOTHER THREAD, instead of telling me what I "just want to do," which you have no idea what you're talking about anyway because you are not me. Has nothing to do with the other peoples posts here, instead it's just creating a useless back and forth with you.
  • Jul 27, 2012, 04:39 PM
    teacherjenn4
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by redlipsticklena View Post
    it wasnt a 'negative' response it was the damn truth. like i said in the other thread i dont know what your problem is and don't care. if you don't want to stay on the topics here then go to ANOTHER THREAD, instead of telling me what I "just want to do," which you have no idea what you're talking about anyways b/c you are not me.

    I hope I'm not overstepping my bounds here, but you came to ask for our help/advice. We are not paid to help. We tried to help you, but you don't seem to want any advice. I have worked with many people with Asperger's. With meds helping control symptoms and counseling, they have gone on to lead productive lives. If your meds aren't helping, and you truly do need help, see a new Dr.
  • Jul 27, 2012, 04:41 PM
    Wondergirl
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by redlipsticklena View Post
    they always adjusts them and doesnt matter never does anything anyway.

    Which meds are you taking and at what dosage?

    Are you going for counseling at least once a week?
  • Jul 27, 2012, 04:43 PM
    redlipsticklena
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by teacherjenn4 View Post
    I hope I'm not overstepping my bounds here, but you came to ask for our help/advice. We are not paid to help. We tried to help you, but you don't seem to want any advice. I have worked with many people with Asperger's. With meds helping control symptoms and counseling, they have gone on to lead productive lives. If your meds aren't helping, and you truly do need help, see a new Dr.

    Like I said I didn't have a problem with your suggesting but what do you expect me to pretend like I haven't tried that a few times? That's why I told the truth and said I did already. I had a problem with that lady coming in here going off topic and insulting me, telling me what I want and think when she have no idea what's she talking about.

    I know people say the aspergers people other then myself go on and lead great lives get married etc. but its always someone else story not mine no matter what I try. I think my time better invested at this point in purchasing a gun to get off this planet.

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