So what do I do? I don’t no why he wants to watch porn sites. I think to myself am I not pretty enough am I not skinny enough. I feel so insecure about myself. I am a mother and I know my body is not perfect and I am a little overweight. But it hurts me knowing what he watches. And I feel like I just don’t want to kiss or have sex with him or just cuddle. My insecurity is getting the best of me. Jealousy is starting to get crazy because I feel that he is looking at every pretty and skinny girl. I feel like he’s looking at every girl but me. I just don’t no what to do so can somebody please tell me

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so wat do I do?? I dont no why he wants to watch porn sites. I think to my self am I not pritty enouf am I not skinny enouf . I feel so insacure about myself I am a mothr an I no my body is not perfect an I am a litl ovrwait. But it hurts me nown wat he watches. An I feel lik I juss dont want to kiss or have sex with him or juss cuddle. My insacuirty is getn the best of me. Jelasey is startn to get crazy because I feel that he is lookn at evry pritty an skinny girl. I feel like hez lookn at evry girl but me. I jus dont no wat to do so can sumbody pleaz tell me

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There are hundreds of questions about porn - use the search feature and find them and the various answers.

It's a vicious circle. You won't kiss/cuddle/have sex because he watches porn; he will probably say he watches porn because you won't kiss/cuddle/have sex.

I am guessing you aren't in the US?

You're in a relationship. You have a child. Talk to him about it.

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There are hundreds of questions about porn - use the search feature and find them and the various answers.

It's a vicious circle. You won't kiss/cuddle/have sex because he watches porn; he will probably say he watches porn because you won't kiss/cuddle/have sex.

I am guessing you aren't in the US?

You're in a relationship. You have a child. Talk to him about it.

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Yes I no I have thout about it maybe its juss me, or maybe I'm bord n this relashion ship. But I can't evn think about being with sumbody else. I asked him y doze he watch porn he said it's a guy thing. I told my girl frien hell if he wants to watch porn then do me like that. Am I rite

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Yes I no I have thout bout it maybe its juss me, or maybe im bord n this relashion ship. But I can't evn think about being with sumbody else. I asked him y doze he watch porn he said its a guy thing. I told my girl frien hell if he wants to watch porn then do me like that. Am I rite

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What does "then do me like that" mean? I have no idea if you are right or wrong because I don't know what you are saying.

And when he watches football do you want him to do you like that too? Porn is just another thing to watch. Don't take it personally. Talk to him instead, or join in the watching. There are guys in those porn movies too you know.

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And when he watches football do you want him to do you like that too? Porn is just another thing to watch. Don't take it personally. Talk to him instead, or join in the watching. There are guys in those porn movies too you know.

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I never even thought about it like that. Females say that it makes them feel unsecure because the girls usually look "better"... (who decides that). But most of the time if she actually looked at the guys in the movies I'm sure her guy would say "they look better". Using this same logic shouldn't the female be grossed out then that her guy is watching a naked man that looks better do what he's doing?

Or how come guys don't get all jealous and insecure, and feel threatened by the guys in porn?

Some probably do.

Chat speak, and text talk, will be deleted, so at least try to make sense.

Porn is bad in a relationship. It systematically destroys the addicted persons perception about being intimate. It doesn't happen over night, but slowly and surely. I was a porn addict at one point in my life.

After a while you start thinking that's what you want. Rough sex, emotionless sex. But some of us are lucky and starts realizing this.

I can tell you though, it has nothing to do with the way you look. Its not that you do not satisfy him, or he does not find you attractive. Its simply a bad habit that gets out of control very quickly if not checked. You can only encourage him to start reading up on the negative side effects of porn. But making a scene out of it, will only make him keep the addiction a secret.

But approving will not help either. You will need to discuss this with him in a calm professional manner. Provide the evidence or articles about the negative effects. He will most likely refute these claims as I did in the beginning.

But having been there, I can confidently say, he is not watching it because you do not do it for him or wishes you were one of those girls. I chalk it up to an addiction. Another snare created by society, for society.

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Porn is bad in a relationship. It systematically destroys the addicted persons perception about being intimate. It doesn't happen over night, but slowly and surely. I was a porn addict at one point in my life.

Its simply a bad habit that gets out of control very quickly if not checked. You can only encourage him to start reading up on the negative side effects of porn. But making a scene out of it, will only make him keep the addiction a secret.

But approving will not help either. You will need to discuss this with him in a calm professional manner. Provide the evidence or articles about the negative effects. He will most likely refute these claims as i did in the beginning.

But having been there, i can confidently say, he is not watching it because you do not do it for him or wishes you were one of those girls. I chalk it up to an addiction. Another snare created by society, for society.

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I've got problems with this. Not everyone who watches porn becomes addicted. You did, or so you say, and I have no reason to disbelieve you. Maybe you have an addictive personality. I don't know. I'll compare it to drinking - I enjoy wine with dinner. I'm not an alcoholic. I enjoy porn in the right setting with the right person. I'm not a porn addict.

I think some people can become addicted to M and M's. It's an addictive personality at play.

I'm also not threatened by other women, so maybe that's it.

Discuss this in a "professional" manner - what profession what that be? I've seen the articles about porn and I've never seen one that wasn't heavily slanted, usually from an abused women's group OR a religious group. Zealots appear to take firm stands on the subject.

You have posted that you had a mental breakdown. Are you blaming it on porn because it's easier than blaming it on something else? https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relati...ip-687125.html

If porn is instead of "real live sex" I have a problem, and I'm the first to say so. If it's in addition to, I don't have a problem.

So - I would be interested in the statistics on how many people watch porn and how many are or become addicted.

People who are upset about their partner watching porn have enough to worry about without having addiction thrown into the mix.

Where is our Psych major now?

EDIT: I paid more attention in class than I thought I did. Apparently you do have an addictive personalty and were also addicted to illegal drugs - https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relati...ce-687133.html