I was seeing this really cute girl at work for a while. We used to hang out all the time after work and have a great time. She would tell me how she liked me more and more. Everything was going smoothly. (I thought) Then suddenly she said she wasn't ready for a relationship and it was moving too fast. I was left devastated. She said we make better friends then lovers. She felt overwhelmed and lost those deep feelings for me.

I tried desperately getting her back but she wasn't feeling it at all.

I continued to give her space until I decided to make one more attempt to win her back.

I brought roses over to her spot and a card saying we should start over and get to know each other.

She said she didn't want to try again because she thinks it wouldn't work.

A week goes by and I call her to ask what I did wrong so I won't make the same twice and lose another girl.. Again she said its not you its me. She didn't what she was getting into. But I know I could've done things differently.

Anyway some stupid incident happened (theres no point in going into detail because its dumb) and now she really hates me.

It's hard because I work with her and have to see her. I really miss hanging out with her. And I know she had a great time with me while we were together.

I'm moving on trying to see other girls but there's something about her.

I'm going to not contact her anymore because I know she doesn't want to talk to me.

Any advice on how to get her back? Or all is lost at this point?

Thanks

Can't lose what you never really had. Some after-work laughs & having sex didn't make her your property, & it sounds like you're ready for a committed relationship & she clearly is not. In any case, acting desperate is a definite turn-off.

If working with her is just too much, you may have to change jobs. However, you're a grownup (I hope!) and can be mature and recognize that not every hookup is going to be "the one". Perhaps doing things old school is best - court a girl, be a gentleman, and really get to know her (this takes time!) God bless you :)

Let it go. She's moved on and so should you.
Find a girl who's as ready for a relationship as you.
Listen to the above comment, she's right on.
Good luck to you.

Ok thanks for the responses, appreciate it.

Yea I don't think every hook up is going to be the "one."

It just seemed we had a real connection based on how she acted around and towards me.

I know she really really liked me because multiple people told me.

Anyway now that getting back with her is highly unlikely, I need some advice on how to get back on her good side.

Thanks

How to get back on her good side, hmmmm. Why is it so important? Just be a good, decent guy, because it's the right thing to do, not because of her. Don't make this your "mission". Depending on the severity of what caused the breach, it may take a while before she would view you in a neutral way; not favorable or unfavorable. To me, it still sounds like you're trying to win her back, though.