Almost a year ago my girlfriend of 8 years lost her mother. Soon after that she told me that she needed space to get her life together. About a few months after that she told me that she had had sex with other man 2 times but it did not mean anything and that she loves me and wants to be with me, but is just going through something and did not want to hurt me but did want to lose me.

She now says that she has feelings for this guy but does not want to lose me and does not want to be with him. Im going crazy waiting and don't know what to do. Feedback?

Its time to think about you. She forgot about you and slept with someone 2 times. You deserve better. No contact with her. Let her come to you. When she does text or call don't answer right away. It will be hard, but its for the best.

She's stringing you along in case it doesn't work out with him.

So if she doesn't want to lose you and doesn't want to be with him, why is she not with you? See?

Don't let her play you. Tell her you will give her plenty of space and dump her.

You don't wait for some one to finish getting their "screw on". Grab your dignity and self respect and get a life without her in it. You are just letting her fill you with false hope, as a safety net in case this guy doesn't work out.