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  • Jul 24, 2012, 11:12 AM
    TheAverageLoser
    Do my friends like me?
    A lot of times I feel like my friends don't even like me. Recently I made plans to go to the movies and they all said they'd go but later made plans of their own among themselves and they cancelled. A lot of times they don't respond to texts or tweets but they're responding to other people. And too often am I not invited to hangout or chill. I'm also left out conversations a lot of times. Usually when I'm around them they're pretty chill, but sometimes I kind of feel like that kid who just follows and isn't even part of the group. I don't even know. Am I taking things out of proportion or do my "friends" not even like me as much as I thought they did or as much as I like them.
  • Jul 24, 2012, 11:31 AM
    lula_fifi
    Don't worry, this is quite normal, although not nice. The same thing happened to me about three years ago now, and although it really hurt at the time, I am now good friends with them again! I managed to join another group of friends, ones who I had already been friends with, but became closer to them then.

    It is a natural part of growing up, so don't worry <3
  • Jul 24, 2012, 11:39 AM
    TheAverageLoser
    Thanks, it's just sometimes it seems like they think they're too cool for me.
  • Jul 24, 2012, 11:40 AM
    C0bra_M3nace
    Ignoring and getting left out of conversations, etc. is not normal nor is it a sign of true friendship, unless there is good reason. Remember, the friends you want to have the rest of your life, are the ones that are with you through thick, thin, high and low. It takes a lifetime to realize who your true friends are, because they're the ones that will be with you for a lifetime.
  • Jul 24, 2012, 11:47 AM
    lula_fifi
    It is normal within teens, I myself experienced it and a good majority of my friends. No it's not a sign of true friendship, so I do recomened that you are just not friends with them anymore, in whatever way you can do it.

    If they do think they're too cool for you, it's just them growing up, and in the worst way. Said people who did the same to me are now all lovely individually, but when they are together in the group, they are the last people you want to be friends with, because they are rather arrogant.
  • Jul 24, 2012, 11:56 AM
    C0bra_M3nace
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by lula_fifi View Post
    It is normal within teens, I myself experienced it and a good majority of my friends. No it's not a sign of true friendship, so I do recomened that you are just not friends with them anymore, in whatever way you can do it.

    If they do think they're too cool for you, it's just them growing up, and in the worst way. Said people who did the same to me are now all lovely individually, but when they are together in the group, they are the last people you want to be friends with, because they are rather arrogant.

    It is normal for teens, not for friends. You seemed to have forgot the initial question.
  • Jul 24, 2012, 12:11 PM
    TheAverageLoser
    It might also be a question of popularity. I'm not really like my name suggests. I'm not popular but I'm no loser although I sometimes feel like one. Idk if it's the case but it seems my "friends" sometimes prioritize the social ladder over relationships and feelings. There's a couple people in my group who aren't like this and seem to be more meek than arrogant and I'll likely try and strengthen my friendship with them. They're not as cool or popular but idc they're nice guys and seem to be more reliable. Thanks for the help and feedback guys. Way to welcome the newcomer!
  • Jul 24, 2012, 12:32 PM
    skyerain
    Its normal but not nice. Just join in with them, make them listen to you. If that doesn't work then make new friends that want you around. It puts pressure on you and gets you all worried what not if they even like u. say hey I'm right here quit being suck a jerk. But like I say people who doesn't treat you well doesn't deserve to be your friend. Hope that helps
  • Jul 24, 2012, 02:24 PM
    C0bra_M3nace
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by TheAverageLoser View Post
    It might also be a question of popularity. I'm not really like my name suggests. I'm not popular but I'm no loser although I sometimes feel like one. Idk if it's the case but it seems my "friends" sometimes prioritize the social ladder over relationships and feelings. There's a couple people in my group who aren't like this and seem to be more meek than arrogant and I'll likely try and strenghten my friendship with them. They're not as cool or popular but idc they're nice guys and seem to be more reliable. Thanks for the help and feedback guys. Way to welcome the newcomer!

    I was the same, except I was very "low" on the "social ladder." I had many friends but most of them, I could just tell, didn't like me for who I was, and that didn't bother me. I kept close the ones that did enjoy my company and liked me for me and I'm still in touch with them to this day.

    Those are the friends I value, the others I couldn't care less, because "Those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"

    Good phrase to live by, especially when you're "low" on the so called "social ladder". It worked for me. Kept me sane in times of insanity.
  • Jul 24, 2012, 05:17 PM
    chiradeep
    Two ways to look at this matter.

    Firstly, I want to share that during my college life I felt this way too. I felt I want to have everybody but nobody includes me in their matters. They don't need me. But later when I just concentrated on how much I am contributing to my friendship then I felt that everything is Ok... You may simply concentrate on your contribution to your friendship. You may feel satisfied after that and may be counted important in your group.

    Secondly, when you are in real need you come to know, 'Who are your friends.' Those who are always with you are friends. So in the long run you really find your friends. You may 'Identify' them as your friends.

    Hope I could help.
  • Jul 24, 2012, 06:23 PM
    ednaidaly
    Mhm, I think you should talk to them about how you feel and maybe you are talking things out of proportion, but you should talk to them about it :)
  • Jul 25, 2012, 02:09 AM
    LOLlover
    The same thing has happened to me so I can relate,and I found the best way to fix the problem is to tell them your confussion amongst the group ;)
  • Jul 25, 2012, 03:50 PM
    amskie12
    From my point that if you feel like that then you can go to a different group and I u do that then they my come back because they might want space that what happened to me . Also if there are no groups you get along with just spread yourself go o a different group every day or be on your on ( I hope thatbwont

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