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  • Jul 23, 2012, 02:25 PM
    Sum 41
    Why?
    I have a very common question, that probably most girls ask themselves. Excuse the language but- WHY do guys like es?

    I'm not a "popular girl" (14 by the way) but I like my place, I have great friends! I just don't get it: I'm so much nicer than all the "popular" queen bees, so much funnier and friendlier.

    The difference is that I have pimples, they don't. They have large boobs and I don't. Why does that make them better than me?
  • Jul 23, 2012, 02:27 PM
    Sum 41
    At the top its supposed to say "WHY do guys like bit**es"
    Sorry I forgot to put * instead of the swear...
  • Jul 23, 2012, 02:29 PM
    Wondergirl
    They aren't. You've got it all wrong.
  • Jul 23, 2012, 02:35 PM
    lula_fifi
    Don't worry, this is indeed something that girls often ask themselves.

    It's not always clear why some boys go for those stuck up, more popular girls - but don't fret! You'll probably find that those boys are just as stuck up, and you may not even want them to like you. In some cases these boys are in fact lovely, but they can be blinded by what is "right" in terms of school popularity, which is wrong, but it is something that everything goes through - being popular at school and, if you are, keeping your status.

    As for other boys who may not be so popular, they can also be blinded by looks and such, much as girls are. Sometimes it is just considered something like "the right thing" to fancy such girls, and less popular boys (or girls in case of boys) may just like the popularity status and what it could promise if they dated such a person.

    But really - don't worry. There is nothing bad with you, nothing about you should repel these boys, of any popularity status. You are only 14, and so you still have a long time of developing left ahead of you, as do these popular girls. Who knows, in two years time you could be queen bee of the school!

    It'll be frustrating, but just hang in there. It may sound to you like the worst thing to do if you want a boyfriend/someone to like you, but really, there isn't much else you can do. I know it sounds horrible, but it's all you can really do. No matter what social status you hold, someone will come along who will think you are more beautiful, funny, friendly than all of those popular girls in the school put together. And you never know, someone in your school may even have a crush on you now ;)
  • Jul 23, 2012, 02:40 PM
    Sum 41
    Hehe thanks a lot ;)
  • Jul 23, 2012, 02:40 PM
    Homegirl 50
    They are not better. Some people are really in to the shallow and lets face it a lot of hormonal teenage boys are in to boobs.
    You are only 14 and your male peers are young as well. This will look different to them as they get older and you will see things in a different light as well.
  • Jul 23, 2012, 02:42 PM
    Sum 41
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Wondergirl View Post
    They aren't. You've got it all wrong.

    I didn't understand your comment. Can you please explain what you mean by "you've got it all wrong"?
    And who's 'they' and what aren't they?:P
  • Jul 23, 2012, 02:45 PM
    Sum 41
    I guess you're right... but no matter how hard I try, it always crosses my mind- that people under estimate me just because I'm not that type of girl
  • Jul 23, 2012, 02:46 PM
    Wondergirl
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Sum 41 View Post
    I didn't understand your comment. Can you please explain what you mean by "you've got it all wrong"?
    And who's 'they' and what aren't they?:P

    Read Homegirl's response. That is what I am saying.
  • Jul 23, 2012, 02:47 PM
    Wondergirl
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Sum 41 View Post
    I guess you're right...but no matter how hard I try, it always crosses my mind- that people under estimate me just because I'm not that type of girl

    Then those "people" are not worth thinking about and their opinions shouldn't matter to you. Ignore them.
  • Jul 23, 2012, 02:50 PM
    Homegirl 50
    As you get older and become more comfortable and confident in who you are, what others think will not matter.
  • Jul 23, 2012, 02:54 PM
    Fr_Chuck
    The issue is you are 14, young teen and high school is not like real adult life will be latter.
    Too many boys and girls are all into looks, and just looks, or who the jocks are or who is the cheer leaders, And of course who they think will be loose morals and have sex with.

    But as you go into college, latter the nerds are the good catches since they will be the enginners or the lawyers and have a higher income.

    Latter on of course life turns into getting to know the real person.
  • Jul 23, 2012, 03:00 PM
    Sum 41
    Thank you all! Wondergirl I understood you but I commented before I saw homegirl's comment
    :)
  • Jul 24, 2012, 04:14 AM
    LOLlover
    I have the same problem But I heard this quote once saying "girls are like apples ,the best ones grow at the top of the tree,but boys don't like to climb to the top to pick you so they choose the easy rotten ones on the ground instead,but wait for the boy to climb to the top and choose the ripe you" I hope that helps ,it did for me(I'm 14 too,can you answer my question? Thanks)

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