I have been in a relationship with my guy on and off for 1yr and 6mths. He has been in and out of the hospital countless of times, and also in and out of jail. I have been by his side every step of the way. He tells me that he loves me and yet he continues to cheat. When I asked him why he said "because females make it easy".

Every time I break up with him he BEGS for my forgiveness and I eventually take him back. Currently he is locked up and he promises me that when he comes home, it’s just going to be me and him. I do honestly love him and I believe that he loves me but I would be a fool to wait for him. On the other hand, I can't stand to see him with another girl. What to do?

Stay and let this loser keep playing you like a fiddle,or go and have a chance at better. Which do you deserve and want?

Please Run like hell while you can.

I have known my best friend for over 5yrs now. Before we became best friends we were dating. While we were dating a girl he used to mess with discovered she was 3 months pregnant. A couple of months later the baby was born and he end up being the father. He has always dreamed of having a family so he decided to put what we had on pause and to try to make it work with the mother of his child. His son is now 2, and for 2yrs they have yet formed a relationship.

As for me and him nothing has changed. I talk to him about everything & he calls me EVERYDAY. The only thing we don't do is spend any face to face time with each other because we are both afraid of what might happen. We talk about our "friendship" from time to time and we both agree that there is something greater between us. I do have a boyfriend and I love him dearly but our relationship isn't where it should be.

My best friend keep telling me that he is going to marry his baby mother and that there is no one else he wants to be with (which is bull)! After all if the baby wasn't his, we would currently be together. We have respect for one another relationships but I can't help but to feel that he is the one for me. I think it's a reason that neither one of our relationships is working out. Given if my boyfriend was treating me the way that I should be treated, then I wouldn't be thinking about my best friend.

I don't think you were meant to be with either of these two guys. I think since you couldn't have the best friend, you settled for the loser, and are so stuck that its really sad.

How old are you, and why are you so stuck in these dead end relationships that can go no where??

My boyfriend of a year and 8 months now (on and off) is currently locked up. He has been in and out of jail throughout our whole relationship and on top of that he cheats. Since being incarcerated he got himself into a program and is working with someone to get his own place. He also got my name tattooed on his neck to so his commitment. My question is do I stay with him? I love him, but my heart won't let me forget all of the pain he caused. He suppose to be coming home next month. He supposedly has his act together and is talking about starting a family next year. He tells me that I need to keep the past in the past and to move forward with our future, but how can I trust him? In the past I use to hold on to his every word and all he did was let me down. I love him but I can't go down that road again

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Originally Posted by Tanae

My boyfriend of a year and 8 months now (on and off) is currently locked up. He has been in and out of jail throughout our whole relationship and on top of that he cheats. Since being incarcerated he got himself into a program and is working with someone to get his own place. He also got my name tattooed on his neck to so his commitment. My question is do i stay with him?? I love him, but my heart won't let me forget all of the pain he caused. He suppose to be coming home next month. He supposedly has his act together and is talking about starting a family next year. He tells me that i need to keep the past in the past and to move forward with our future, but how can i trust him?? In the past i use to hold on to his every word and all he did was let me down. I love him but i can't go down that road again

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If you can't go down that road again, then don't. Break off the relationship if you feel you can't trust him.

I've heard about the pain. The only "good" thing I've heard is your name tattooed on his back.

Why else do you stay?

Please stop opening new threads with the same question. >threads merged<
Both of these guys sound like very bad "boyfriend/husband" material.

I don't see the good points of either of them.

If the boyfriend with the child breaks off his relationship with the child's mother and then takes up with you, that's one thing. If he walks from her bed to yours, that's a very bad idea for many reasons. If you are afraid to be in his company because you'll cheat on your boyfriend (who is in jail), then you have no right to criticize your boyfriend for cheating. You are contemplating doing the same thing.

I think you need to get yourself figured out before you date either one of these people.

Seems like he doesn't have a good track record for anything that would constitute a GOOD relationship.

I suggest you let him come out. Insist he live on his own; you too. This is the only way you will ever find out where this is going being on your own. Of course I am not saying don't contact each other, have dates, make out but go home to your own beds. Try this arrangement. You are the one asking how to, and this is what I am suggesting.

Leave this man,he will just play with your life and feelings

Leave him alone. MOVE forward.