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  • Jul 21, 2012, 03:29 PM
    ashley187
    I fell for my best friend who is a Lesbian.
    Here is some background: I met my friend at work, before we actually met each other people always got us mixed up and said that we were so much alike. So when we finally met we were like dang we do act alike it kind of scared us... we met when we both was going through a heart break. We have been really close ever since, now I was not interested in her at all because I don't think friends should date... Present day: We always together either or alone or with mutual friends, we have those nights when we are drunk and our conversation gets a little heated... and we have to control ourselves. Its like a feel a connection with her and when we are together now the thing is I don't have a clue if she feeling me. I know her type of women she like big booty, fine women with some hood in them, now I am not ugly I just don't have a big booty like she likes. I want to know what are some signs that she may like me also more then friends? And should I be worried that I'm not exactly her type? If you guys could give me some feed back I would greatly appreciate it. Thanks a lot!
  • Jul 21, 2012, 03:41 PM
    JudyKayTee
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by ashley187 View Post
    Here is some background: I met my friend at work, before we actually met each other people always got us mixed up and said that we was so much alike. So when we finally met we was like dang we do act alike it kind of scared us...we met when we both was going through a heart break. We have been really close ever since, now I was not interested in her at all because I don't think friends should date...Present day: We always together either or alone or with mutual friends, we have those nights when we r drunk and our conversation gets a little heated...and we have to control ourselves. Its like a feel a connection with her and when we are together now the thing is I don't have a clue if she feeling me. I know her type of women she like big booty, fine women with some hood in them, now I am not ugly I just don't have a big booty like she likes. I want to know what are some signs that she may like me also more then friends?? And should I be worried that I'm not exactly her type?? If you guys could give me some feed back I would greatly appreciate it. Thanks a lot!!

    Why did my answer vanish?

    I suggested that you ask her - you find her attractive, you are friends, you've had some heated conversations when unhibited due to alcohol - tell her you feel some attraction, what does she think?

    Be prepared for her to say yes or no.

    The "dating dance" is the same whether the other person is male or female.

    Got to ask you - what does "hood in her" mean?
  • Jul 21, 2012, 03:43 PM
    Fr_Chuck
    Not sure, I was trying to answer and it froze up?

    But this is a easy answer, you can ignore her, try to stay her friend and deny your feelings, or be honest and ask or tell her how you are feeling.
  • Jul 26, 2012, 04:46 PM
    ashley187
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by JudyKayTee View Post
    Why did my answer vanish?

    I suggested that you ask her - you find her attractive, you are friends, you've had some heated conversations when unhibited due to alcohol - tell her you feel some attraction, what does she think?

    Be prepared for her to say yes or no.

    The "dating dance" is the same whether the other person is male or female.

    Got to ask you - what does "hood in her" mean?

    Hood in her means-someone with a little attitude in them, not a push over, also willing to keep it real with you 100%
  • Jul 26, 2012, 04:48 PM
    ashley187
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by ashley187 View Post
    Here is some background: I met my friend at work, before we actually met each other people always got us mixed up and said that we was so much alike. So when we finally met we was like dang we do act alike it kind of scared us...we met when we both was going through a heart break. We have been really close ever since, now I was not interested in her at all because I don't think friends should date...Present day: We always together either or alone or with mutual friends, we have those nights when we r drunk and our conversation gets a little heated...and we have to control ourselves. Its like a feel a connection with her and when we are together now the thing is I don't have a clue if she feeling me. I know her type of women she like big booty, fine women with some hood in them, now I am not ugly I just don't have a big booty like she likes. I want to know what are some signs that she may like me also more then friends?? And should I be worried that I'm not exactly her type?? If you guys could give me some feed back I would greatly appreciate it. Thanks a lot!!

    I understand everything you guys just said, but what are some of the signs she may be feeling the same way? I want to know the signs before I tell her plus I keep having dreams about us and at first I could just brush them off, but now they are getting worse.
  • Jul 26, 2012, 04:50 PM
    JudyKayTee
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by ashley187 View Post
    I understand everything you guys just said, but what are some of the signs she may be feeling the same way? I want to know the signs before I tell her plus I keep having dreams about us and at first I could just brush them off, but now they are getting worse.


    I have little faith in signs - I think there are signs of something (but I've already addressed that).

    How would you treat a man in this same situation? Do the same thing.
  • Jul 26, 2012, 05:01 PM
    ashley187
    Okay thank you for help JudyKayTee.

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