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  • Jul 20, 2012, 02:06 PM
    kellyb25
    What happened with my relationship?
    Well I'm 18 had been with my now ex boyfriend for about 3 on and off years of our relationship. I can honestly say everything had been going great until we got into an argument. Literally just Last Thursday we were together extremely happy, him telling me he loved me and what not. So that night my old ex from about 4 yrs ago texted me a told my boyfriend about it he seemed fine and then asked him if he talked to any of his girlfriends, he lied saying no well that night I went to bed pretty angry and so did he sense I had brought up some other topics he doesn't like to talk about anyway so I checked his Facebook just cause I was bored and realized that he had recently just became friends with his ex girlfriend, I felt heartbroken because he didn't tell me the truth when I asked that Thursday I left a really horrible voice mail,

    Friday he really didn't talk with me, I asked why he did it and all he said was sorry he seemed so distant and not caring about me. As the day goes by I finally apologized for my rudeness and told him that everything I had sad was out of anger because it was true I never meant anything I had left on the voice mail just the fact that I was hurt. All he said was OK and that was it. Saturday we didn't talk at all, Sunday comes by and I felt sick because I truly love him and even when I'm mad at him but I still think about him. So Sunday we finally talked and all he told me was how is feelings had changed, that he was very confused that he had been talking to his ex from about 4 years ago! They never ever had contacted each other till that weekend he told me that since he was mad at me he went to talk with her on the phone and talked about their past.

    I was so hurt hearing this all that in my head now is did he ever really love me he did tell me it was a two way street that are emotions would go both ways hat we had something special but really over three days he gained feelings for his ex and wanted to leave me and he was confused with making a decision. As much as I love him I had to tell him it was over because he already wanted to leave me and really just made it seem like he never cared about our special relationship and just go back to his past with a girl who he hadn't talked to in years and she has a boyfriend.

    I honestly don't know what to believed he was actually quite surprised when I told him it was over all he said was that he would always be there for me and care about me but honestly I don't believe that why would you hurt me so much and still say you care about me. I truly had felt that the reason this happened was because of our argument, I mean he said our relationship was great on Thursday so how does that change in just three days? Help me please there's so much to this. I love him and just don't know what to do.
  • Jul 20, 2012, 05:02 PM
    COOKIE MONSTER
    Sometime's people tell other's thing's are good too make them selve's believe it to.
    Your 18,you've been together since you was 16,thing's change,people change,we grow apart and especially at 18 your still finding yourself and figuring out your future.
    Go out and enjoy being 18 and single don't tie yourself down so young you have the rest of your life to do that hun :)
    Don't let this get you down it's not the end of the world
    I seen a pic on Facebook and it says '' Someday,Someone will walk into your life and make you realise,Why it never worked out with anyone else''
    This is so true,my comment probably isn't helping but you need to forget about this guy he will realise what an idiot he is one day and you will have found your mr right and laugh in his face in the street when you tell him your so happy and he's single and feeling like sh**t because the girl he left you for left him to go back to her boyfriend and he's been single since.
    Karma will give him what for hun ;)

    KEEP THAT CHIN UP GIRL!
    AND KEEP SMILING! :)
  • Jul 20, 2012, 10:45 PM
    talaniman
    If your relationship has been off,and on for three years then this is probably an off time as you seem to have these lovers spats regularly.

    I wonder if its because you get emotionally carried away easily? Or maybe the kids have grown up, and want to explore? Whatever it is just let the dust settle and see what happens when heads, and emotions have cooled off.
  • Jul 29, 2012, 12:27 AM
    kellyb25
    Thanks everyone :) Ive been feeling better and just moving one as much as it hurts , I have to in order to be stronger

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