Ask Me Help Desk - How do I get over her?

My girlfriend or at least my ex-girlfriend and I had been going out for a couple of months. Her and I had strong feelings for each other, things were going great. But then almost four weeks ago she dumped me out of nowhere without any explanation. All I found out was that she thought I was a capable liar and might lie or have lied to her, which is ridiculous. We talked a little bit and decided to stay friends. I don’t know if I’m doing so good though. I’m constantly thinking of how things were. Every time I see her I get a weird feeling in my gut. I can’t seem to move on. What’s even better is that just recently she started dating a friend of mine. And when I see them together I feel like I’ve been torn apart. I know its over between us, I made that clear when she asked me if I still have any feelings for her still. I have been pretty depressed in the last month. I want the stomach thing to go away when I see her. How do I get over her?

Im going to give you the same advice I've been getting and that's the only thing that will heal your emotional wounds is time. I can feel every ounce of pain you are going through and I know exactly how you feel, but unfortunately there is nothing you can do but cut of all communication with your ex and your "friend" I use the term friend loosly because it is my opinion that friends don't date other friends ex girlfriends/boyfriends.

to sum it all up though just try doing different things from what you did when you where with her, start exercising, learn to do something you've always wanted to do etc...

You may not relaize it now or even a year from now but in the end this whole situation will have worked out for the best.

Time. It's the only thing that fixes these things. I'm sorry that I can't give you a happier answer, but it's the truth.

Hi! i know it must really hurt some much. Every one thinks there know what you going through but no body does, every one goes through it differently .... all i can say is just cut all tires with her! sometimes you do things that hurt you the most but in the end its worth it... and believe me that you can not be friends with someone you were going out with because there are to much memories there.... let go now!!! and as for your friend thats really not what he is...

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Originally Posted by im my own enemy

My girlfriend or at least my ex-girlfriend and I had been going out for a couple of months. Her and I had strong feelings for each other, things were going great. But then almost four weeks ago she dumped me out of nowhere without any explanation. All I found out was that she thought I was a capable liar and might lie or have lied to her, which is ridiculous. We talked a little bit and decided to stay friends. I don’t know if I’m doing so good though. I’m constantly thinking of how things were. Every time I see her I get a weird feeling in my gut. I can’t seem to move on. What’s even better is that just recently she started dating a friend of mine. And when I see them together I feel like I’ve been torn apart. I know its over between us, I made that clear when she asked me if I still have any feelings for her still. I have been pretty depressed in the last month. I want the stomach thing to go away when I see her. How do I get over her?

Well, first of all, you being friends and seeing each other constantly is not going to help you get over her. I have been there and done that, I had a break-up persist for nearly two years because I saw the girl almost every day. Also, her being with your friend now is obviously gut wrenching because she may have with him what you two had. Btw (any friend who would turn around and date your ex like that isn't much of a friend). I would talk to him about it and let him know that it really upsets you. I would say the main problem is you seeing her all the time, so either find a way to avoid her for awhile to get your head straight or find some other way to deal with seeing her all the time.

Wow I feel you. My ex brought up the idea of being friends. But all I could do when we're together was think about how great she smelled, and how that smile brightens up my day. It sucks. In the end, I had to cut all ties with her because she started seeing other people. I couldn't deal with it. Everybody heals differently, and at different times. It took me al little over 6 months with no contact with the X to see that I can make it through this. I hope it's sooner for you.

But Time is the answer. Sucks huh? If only there was a pill out there for this...

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Originally Posted by im my own enemy

My girlfriend or at least my ex-girlfriend and I had been going out for a couple of months. Her and I had strong feelings for each other, things were going great. But then almost four weeks ago she dumped me out of nowhere without any explanation. All I found out was that she thought I was a capable liar and might lie or have lied to her, which is ridiculous. We talked a little bit and decided to stay friends. I don’t know if I’m doing so good though. I’m constantly thinking of how things were. Every time I see her I get a weird feeling in my gut. I can’t seem to move on. What’s even better is that just recently she started dating a friend of mine. And when I see them together I feel like I’ve been torn apart. I know its over between us, I made that clear when she asked me if I still have any feelings for her still. I have been pretty depressed in the last month. I want the stomach thing to go away when I see her. How do I get over her?

I agree with everyone else who has responded to your question. I am going through almost the same thing right now and I am a fricken mess but the only thing that makes me feel better is getting my mind off her. Working out and just keeping myself occupied. It is the worst feeling I have ever felt in my life and I can imagine you feel just as bad but like everyone has said, every relationship is different for each couple. I wish I could have back what I had with this girl previously but I can't, and once things are broken up and words have been said nothing can ever be the same and that is the painful truth. The best thing you can do is just give her space and distance yourself from her. It will be hard not talking to her but it is what needs to happen. It may take her and you alike a year before you realize you two were/were not meant to be with each other. You may meet someone else that is better for you. Who knows, the only thing we know for sure is that nothing is for certain, but prepare yourself to move on.

Its painful, hurting, and it always seem like the stomach will not be going anywhere anytime soon...
However you got to focus on other areas that ideed interest you, other friends, other hobbies... you have to withdraw the limelight from her. To be honest, the fact that whe is dating your friend basically makes the so called friend not a friend anymore... it's the unspoken rule of friendships that you don't cross the line.
I can't agree that the feeling will go away overnight, it takes time but you will get there... one step at a time, there must be an activity, a friend, that if you do, or be around, you feel good, focus your energy on that...

Well If Ur A Teen Then Just Don't Think About It And Play On Ur Ps2 Or Ride A Bike,skateboard Etc... Give Up Dating For A Few Months (2-4) Then Try Again It Might Work Out.but If Ur A Adult Get 5 Of Your Best Friends From College Buy A lot Of Tequila,get Drunk,joyride With Em (with Your Car Or Their Car Of Course Duh.. ) Then Hit The Strip Club U Will Feel A lot Better The Next Morning But The Hangover Will Suck Good Luck...