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  • Jul 18, 2012, 11:34 AM
    JonnyBeatz
    Split up!
    Me and my girlfriend split up three days ago. We had a bit of a rough patch last week. We went out two weekends ago, she got really drunk and fell asleep in a taxi, and I was pretty cold with her all week then trying to make her feel bad.

    Then on Saturday she was out with the girls, I was out with my friends, I got really drunk and bombarded her with calls, and texted her blaming her for being with someone else because she did not answer. She rang me then on Sunday saying it was over. I called to her house, but she didn't want to see me and told me I was acting crazy. Then on Monday I kept trying to call her, but she told me that she didn't want to see me or hear from me and that I should respect that.

    Its Wednesday today and I just texted her saying I feel like I didn't get a chance to apologise, and I said sorry for everything, getting drunk, the calls, blaming her for being with someone else, when I would never actually think that, and for making her feel bad last week. I just want her to know how sorry I am. Ive had no reply, what do I do now? Just accept this is over?
  • Jul 18, 2012, 02:55 PM
    Enigma1999
    The ball is in her court now... Let it be for a while.

    Instead of being a concerned boyfriend that she fell asleep in an unknown taxi, you blamed her for being with someone.

    Instead of letting her be, you bombard her with calls and texts.

    Yes. You look crazy.

    She is upset and she needs space. So... give it to her. She knows your number. She will call when she is ready. And if not? Well... let this be a learning lesson that woman OR men for that matter don't like being accused of cheating when they aren't.
  • Jul 19, 2012, 06:51 AM
    JonnyBeatz
    I looked after her the night she fell asleep in the taxi, I was with her, so I was the concerned boyfriend.

    The week later, I was out drunk and kept ringing her, when she didn't answer, I blamed her for cheating. I've bombarded her with calls and texts for three days, she has said I haven't respected her wishes not to talk to her.

    I fear I have lost her forever
  • Jul 19, 2012, 07:20 AM
    talaniman
    https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relati...ce-656926.html

    Same girl?

    Quote:

    but she told me that she didn't want to see me or hear from me and that I should respect that.
    You should accept she got tired of your bad behavior and give her what she wants and that's to be left alone. Making a pest of yourself only makes things worse,and you look foolish, so doas she asked.

    If you don't, her reaction to you gets much,much worse.
  • Jul 19, 2012, 12:40 PM
    JonnyBeatz
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by talaniman View Post
    https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relati...ce-656926.html

    Same girl?



    You should accept she got tired of your bad behavior and give her what she wants and thats to be left alone. Making a pest of yourself only makes things worse,and you look foolish, so doas she asked.

    If you don't, her reaction to you gets much,much worse.


    Yes same, gave her space last time and she came back, think its different this time. Contacted her next three days, stopped now, think I have pushed her too far though
  • Jul 19, 2012, 12:43 PM
    talaniman
    The experiment didn't work... TWICE! Put this behind you. Letting gois a life skill that will serve you well, and save you problems.
  • Jul 19, 2012, 02:14 PM
    JonnyBeatz
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by talaniman View Post
    The experiment didn't work..................TWICE!! Put this behind you. Letting gois a life skill that will serve you well, and save you problems.

    I know I have to, we got on so well though, doesn't make sense, she obviously didn't want it as much as I did
  • Jul 19, 2012, 02:17 PM
    talaniman
    Obviously!!
  • Jul 20, 2012, 01:33 PM
    JonnyBeatz
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by talaniman View Post
    Obviously!!!!!!!!!!!

    So I give up forever, there is no hope?
  • Jul 20, 2012, 03:54 PM
    talaniman
    I think its foolish to wait and see what she will do in the future for sure. No way of knowing, but that would be a bridge to cross when you come to it. In the mean time there are other things to focus on and build a life that you enjoy without her.

    She did say leave her alone, and that's what you do.
  • Jul 21, 2012, 08:51 AM
    JonnyBeatz
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by talaniman View Post
    I think its foolish to wait and see what she will do in the future for sure. No way of knowing, but that would be a bridge to cross when you come to it. In the mean time there are other things to focus on and build a life that you enjoy without her.

    She did say leave her alone, and thats what you do.

    Thanks

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