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Is she a virgin??

I do sex with a girl. She is 18 years old and me 24. She said this is first time for her but I did not found any single drop blood. Is she a virgin or?? Then I am doing sex with her since 7 months but result the same, no blood. So I am so confused about her virginity. So please tell me she is virgin or not??

Some women only bleed the first time. Other women don't bleed at all.

If you've been having sex with her for 7 months, she is no longer a virgin.

Was she a virgin the first time you both had sex? We don't know, you will have to ask her.

First she is not a virgin after the first time you have sex, and you should not expect blood after first time. But it is very common now that girls do not bleed, they only bleed if their hymen is still intact, But exercise, tampons, many sports can cause it to tear. So there is no way to tell

How would I know she is virgin

I do sex with a girl she is 18yr old and me 24 she said this is first time for her but I did not found any single drop blood... she is virgin or?? Then I am doing sex with her since 7months but result the same no blood so I am so confused about her virginity... so please tell me she is virgin or not?? Cause I planned to marry her so please tell me exactly how would I know...

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Originally Posted by samsam6828

i do sex with a girl she is 18yr old and me 24 she said this is first time for her but i did not found any single drop blood... she is virgin or??? then i am doing sex with her since 7months but result the same no blood so i am so confused about her virginity... so please tell me she is virgin or not??? cause i planed to marry her so please tell me exactly how would i know.....

Not every virgin bleeds. You either believe her or you don't.

Here's what interests me. You apparently INSIST on marrying a virgin. You have sex with her. She now is definitely not a virgin.

So what happens to her if/when you walk away because you are questioning her virginity? Does the next guy also walk away - because of you?

You have USED this girl. Shame on you. Quite frankly, you are disgusting.

Her virginity is so very important to you and months into the sexual relationship you are looking for an escape hatch, apparently in a culture which prizes virginity.

Again, stomach turning. Do her a favor. Don't believe her, decide she's not good/pure enough for you, leave. Let her find someone who truly loves her.

I planned to marry her so I want to know if she is virgin why no bleeding to her why??

Some women/girls do not bleed. The hymen was broken naturally by movement.

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Originally Posted by samsam6828

i planned to marry her so i want to know if she is virgin why no bleeding to her why???

You're really 24? You have no idea how a woman's body works.

A woman only bleeds if her hymen is still intact, and even then some women won't bleed the first time they have sex.

A hymen can be torn many different ways, and, some women are born without one.

No blood doesn't mean she wasn't a virgin. She definitely isn't a virgin now, because you've had sex with her.

So you either love her enough, trust her enough, and respect her enough, to believe her, or you use this as an excuse to leave. It's a very bad excuse, because it's not based on any evidence, but it's your choice.

Personally I don't understand why you're with someone you obviously don't trust. :(

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Originally Posted by Alty

You're really 24? You have no idea how a woman's body works.

A woman only bleeds if her hymen is still intact, and even then some women won't bleed the first time they have sex.

A hymen can be torn many different ways, and, some women are born without one.

No blood doesn't mean she wasn't a virgin. She definitely isn't a virgin now, because you've had sex with her.

So you either love her enough, trust her enough, and respect her enough, to believe her, or you use this as an excuse to leave. It's a very bad excuse, because it's not based on any evidence, but it's your choice.

Personally I don't understand why you're with someone you obviously don't trust. :(

I trust her I lover and off course I marry her I ask a question

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Originally Posted by samsam6828

i trust her i lover n off course i marry her i ask a question

And your question has been answered, many times, yet you continue to ask.

So, if you trust her, then trust her. Personally, I can't see how you trust her. If you did, you wouldn't have asked this question to begin with.

Samsam, as the others have stated, some women do not bleed for several reasons. Many of those reasons have been given to you. I will add that sometimes the hymen stretches instead of breaking. Also for some women there can very little blood because the hymen was very thin. A couple of drops of blood are easily missed especially when mixed with all the other fluids present during sex.

Does she know you are questioning her virginity and still looking for blood? As has been said, if you trust her, believe her. If you don't, then question yourself and your motives instead of her. She can't do anything to convince you. She can't do anything to 'prove' her truthfulness.

If you are looking to walk away, do so before an unplanned pregnancy occurs.

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Originally Posted by samsam6828

i planned to marry her so i want to know if she is virgin why no bleeding to her why???

You PLANNED to marry her, not PLAN to marry her?

If you intend to marry her, why is this important enough to ask more than once?

You either believe her or you don't. There is nothing "we" can say that will change that (obviously).

I take it english is not your first language. I will try to keep this simple.

Virginity, and the culture around requiring a woman to be a virgin, was important to ensure that each child was that of the father. If the father was the only one to have sex with the woman than all the children had to be his. This was also before there was a good understanding on how the reproductive system worked. Sure the basics were known, but how long sperm is alive and if that was the mode of impregnation and all that wasn't really known.

In this modern age we know better. Not being a virgin isn't as taboo in most cultures. Paternity tests, if the father of the baby is in question, are more accurate anyway.

So this is what I have to say to you:
1). It doesn't matter. Drop it. You love and trust her and that is enough. If you are questioning this than you don't trust her. Get over it because you are sounding like a class one douchecanoe.
2). A lot of virgins don't bleed. The hymen could be broken in more ways than I am wiling to list here. She could be a vestial virgin, untouched and pure and still not bleed the first or subsequent times.
3). I don't do simple well.
4). Never is there a number four.
5). It doesn't matter. Added for emphasis.

Love her. Trust her. If you allow suspicion like this to enter your relationship now than you're doomed to divorce.

Not every woman bleeds during intercourse depending on your girlfriends vagina will determine if she'll bleed or not considering the fact that her hymen could not be intact because of usage of tampons etc.

Great points Craven. Not only were you accurate in your advice, but you also showed that it IS OK to call someone a douche on this site. I called someone a douchebag in another post and questioned myself if it were OK. So thank you for the confirmation buddy.

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Originally Posted by Enigma1999

Great points Craven. Not only were you accurate in your advice, but you also showed that it IS ok to call someone a douche on this site. I called someone a douchebag in another post and questioned myself if it were ok. So thank you for the confirmation buddy.

The whole post broke me up and I LOVE "douchcanoe." And, yes, that's how OP is sounding.

Doesn't anyone else find it offensive that he took her virginity... but he wants to marry a virgin?

Duhh?

Yes Judy. It sickens me. He tainted her.

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Originally Posted by Enigma1999

Yes Judy. It sickens me. He tainted her.

Yes, but he's been having sex with her for 7 months and she didn't bleed once! Where's the sarcasm font? :(

This guy sickens me. Not only does he not know anything about a woman's body, but worse, he doesn't trust the woman he "defiled". Shame on him!

I wonder, did he bleed when he lost his virginity? With an attitude like that I would have made sure of it. Oops, was that out loud?

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Originally Posted by Alty

Yes, but he's been having sex with her for 7 months and she didn't bleed once! Where's the sarcasm font? :(

This guy sickens me. Not only does he not know anything about a woman's body, but worse, he doesn't trust the woman he "defiled". Shame on him!

I wonder, did he bleed when he lost his virginity? With an attitude like that I would have made sure of it. Oops, was that out loud?

Not to beat a dead horse but he needs to marry a virgin. Meanwhile, he's "de-virginized" (is that a word?) this girl so now she's unsuitable for someone else looking for a virgin.

Must be a cultural thing.

There is nothing wrong with you asking the question if you really want to know the answer and can move on from there. You understand now that, all virgins do not bleed the first time and after your first sexual encounter you are no longer a virgin. (Boy or girl). Ask your girl,ONCE, if she was a virgin and leave it at whatever answer you get. Constantly asking will only get her upset and possibly ruin a good relationship. MOVE ON!!