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I am just tired of life already have no goals in life, 34 years old still living with parentss, no real job been drink since 18 years old, been fired from jobs have never had a real relationship and when they work out I don't want to be or give myself all of it, and when they go away I end up really disappointed and hurt because I blame it on me and tend to start drinking even more. This been going on forever and seem not to change. Friend that I have at my age already have their own place have kids and they are married but not me, don't want to be like this 10 years from now feel like it's going to be late by then. Stopped drinking when 3 months ago because the last relationship I had felt like If I would stop drinking its was going to make it work, I managed to do two months and a half, but the problem in the relationship were still there when she started acting distan I stared drinking again same amount as before 5 to 6 times a day now we are just friends. It ended I think because of my insicurities I brought from my previous relationship. So so tired of all of it don't see myself doing anything good, not worth of a person anymore, what to make changes before it's too late and find myself living the same life I have right now. What's the definition of hitting rock bottom, it's it mentally physically, am I an alcoholic is the alcohol causing and the results of my life now, do I have any issues I need to talk to like as Counselor, where to start?Please help

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Originally Posted by Gangster1

I am just tired of life already have no goals in life, 34 years old still living with parentss,,no real job been drink since 18 years old, been fired from jobs have never had a real relationship and when they work out I don't want to be or give myself all of it, and when they go away I end up really disappointed and hurt because I blame it on me and tend to start drinking even more. This been going on forever and seem not to change. Friend that I have at my age already have their own place have kids and they are married but not me, don't want to be like this 10 years from now feel like it's going to be late by then. Stoped drinking when 3 months ago because the last relationship I had felt like If I would stop drinking its was going to make it work, I managed to do two months and a half, but the problem in the relationship were still there when she started acting distan I stared drinking again same amount as before 5 to 6 times a day now we are just friends. It ended i think because of my insicurities I brought from my previous relationship. So so tired of all of it don't see myself doing anything good, not worth of a person anymore, what to make changes before it's too late and find myself living the same life I have right now. What's the definition of hitting rock bottom, it's it mentally physically, am I an alcoholic is the alcohol causing and the results of my life now, do I have any issues I need to talk to like as Counselor, where to start?Please help

I don't know if you're an alcoholic. I do know if alcohol changes you, adversely affects your life, you can't stop, it's a crutch, you have a problem with alcohol. Only you know the extent of the problem. I don't think your relationship ended because of your insecurities. I think it ended because of your use of alcohol.

Stop drinking - find a counsellor or group to help you.

Get a job, move out of your parents' house, stand on your own two feet.

EDIT: You've asked this before and have ignored the advice to find a way to stop. What's different about the situation now? https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/mental-emotional-health/anxious-about-alcohol-294525.html

Dear Friend I can understand the pain that your are going through.

I think alcohol is a such poison that destroys your everything. Please its high time you see a counselor or get admitted to a rehabilitation center for some time. That will definitely improve your life. They will help you to get rid of alcohol & teach you how to stand on your feet. Common, take courage and get admitted as soon as possible. If you can't do it alone then tell your parents get you admitted.