Parental rights of infant to unwed parents
I have a question for my best friend, who unfortunately got pregnant after a one-night stand. She lived in Las Vegas at the time and the father lives in the Bay Area. She moved to Northern California, but about 2 hours away from where the father lives. The baby was born in CA and the father is on the birth certificate. The baby is 2 months old and breastfeeding.
The father believes he should get 50/50 custody, but at this point is asking the mother to drop off the baby (2 hours away) for the weekends, and pump enough bottles for him to feed her with. We think this is absolutely inappropriate for a small breastfeeding baby and a huge demand on her. She also has a very old, unreliable car and is not keen on driving down the two hours, so she has said that they are always welcome at her place to visit. However, the father and grandmother are very demanding and want her to come to them. The family state that they miss the baby, but haven't made much effort to come to where my friend lives to visit. Also, he flakes when he schedules time to come up and visit.
She is not denying them visitation, but is not willing to drive the two hours. Is that her right? She also doesn't want them taking the baby without her present, does she have that right?
He hasn't paid child support yet, but she has filed for it. And there are no custody/visitation orders at present.
She is very stressed out by the father's demands, but also wants to know what her rights are, especially since the baby is so young. Any help or guidance would be greatly appreciated!