I was inetentive pushed her away should have seen it coming . Im still devistated so hurt and not sure if I should keep fighting or let her go . I've already tried the wrong ways to get her back but I'm sure I just facilatated things . But have done some thinking and am ready to take the , not talking to her as much as possible and cosentrate on myself and our kids approach . But still very hurt and rejected. It happened fast and out of the blue and she's went back home to be with him , no job,he was married with four little boys, and they ended that marriage also , I have the kids for now but she's coming to get them for the first time for two weeks with her

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Originally Posted by Chadbrowwn

I was inetentive pushed her away should have seen it coming . Im still devistated so hurt and not sure if I should keep fighting or let her go . Iv already tryed the wrong ways to get her back but im sure I just facilatated things . But have done some thinking and am ready to take the , not talking to her as much as possible and cosentrate on myself and our kids approach . But still very hurt and rejected. It happend fast and out of the blue and shes went back home to be with him , no job,he was married with four little boys, and they ended that marriage also , I have the kids for now but shes coming to get them for the first time for two weeks with her

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"Inetentive"? What are you saying?

What is your question?

I think she's already gone - there doesn't appear to be any "letting go."

File for divorce.

Ok let me rephrase. Im the one having trouble letting go. She is gone and that's that. But I'm having trouble accepting the fact that she made such a huge dissison that ruind so many lifes I just need some one smarter then me to help point me right derection . She says if your not happy just leave , but that just seems like something people say when they leave. And why do girls go from one guy to the next I don't think that's healthy . I just wish she had some feelings of resposibility to me or the kids. Idk I have so many feeling about the whole situation and everybody involved

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Originally Posted by Chadbrowwn

Ok let me rephrase. Im the one having trouble letting go. She is gone and thats that. But im having trouble accepting the fact that she made such a huge dissison that ruind so many lifes I just need some one smarter then me to help point me right derection . She says if your not happy just leave , but that just seems like somthing people say when they leave. And why do girls go from one guy to the next I dont think thats healthy . I just wish she had some feelings of resposibility to me or the kids. Idk I have so many feeling about the whole situation and everybody involved

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You can't make anyone do anything - love you, quit smoking, not leave, come back to you, feel responsible to and for anyone. Yes, she's gone... and that's that.

I don't know that [all] girls (or women) go from one guy [or boy] to the next. Maybe your wife did. Please - all women aren't like that. She obviously was unhappy. I don't know how the two of you addressed her unhappiness and the problems in your marriage but it appears that she is making her own happiness now.

You can always talk to a therapist or someone who will listen and give you advice. You need to hold yourself together for the sake of your children. You are not going through this alone - they are, too. Perhaps they should speak to someone.