I broke up with my ex girlfriend and tried to get her back . Now she won't phone or text me first but will responed . We have meet up and she huged me and kissed my neck but puts off another meeting. What can I do?
|
I broke up with my ex girlfriend and tried to get her back . Now she won't phone or text me first but will responed . We have meet up and she huged me and kissed my neck but puts off another meeting. What can I do?
Move on. Go no contact and keep moving on with your life, her mindset is still in break up status, if she wants you she will come looking for you, stop calling and texting her altogether.
You broke up with her. Why would she reach out? If you tried and she turned you down the best thing you can do is leave her be. She may or may not get in touch with you.
Quote:
Originally Posted by mmresd
I have left her alone for about two months now the reason we broke up was I neglect are relastionship the past year we where together for two years I had a friend who was like a mum too me who had cancer and we opened a new business where I was traveling a lot and going to and from the hospital most nites so I didn't go and she here much . I have explained all this too her but it has got me now where . She has two kids too look after so she has a bit on her plate to we all got on well when we where together . The last phone call I had with her I told her I couldn't carry on like this feeling like I was chasing her she went all quit soi called her back because I felt bad and said I have not felt out with you and then she went all nice on me and told me too call her when I got back from my weekend break and that she didn't know what she wanted . She acts nice one min then not the next I don't get her . When I was with her she said I was the first person she wonted kids with and to marrie . What do I do?Quote:
Originally Posted by here2assist
I think you have to accept her change in attitude and feelings and leave her alone as not only was she unwilling to support what you were going through but has a lot of other things to worry about than being in a relationship that hasn't helped her at all. A year of what was neglect and not full attention will do that.
Leave her alone, either she misses you,or not. She sure doesn't miss you now.
I told you what to do:
Move on. Go no contact and keep moving on with your life, her mindset is still in break up status, if she wants you she will come looking for you, stop calling and texting her altogether.
If she decides she wants to be with you, she will come to you, don't let her play this bipolar game on your.
What's the bipolar game if you don't mind me ask? I am moving on . I was just gutted I coundnt sort it. When I last spoke too her she said I could phone you when ever . She did phone me now and again. Was it just all game play . I just didn't get why she meet up with, she was telling me when she got in the her friends at work was singing love songs too her and told her not too come back pregnant and when I dropped her off she said she was liability and I would be better off with some else . I said I didn't want anyone else then she huggs me and kisses my neck . I said would you like too meet up again and she said she will sort something out women are confusing!Quote:
Originally Posted by mmresd
Yes females are confusing, but what you do is leave them to their confusion, and find one you understand much better. That's how love and romance works my friend.
>LOL< you probably should be prepared to meet a whole bunch of confused females on your journey to the one who understands you, and you understand her!
For sure you can't UNconfuse them, so keep it moving forward, not back, and ENJOY the journey!
Enjoy the journey I think I will turn guy lol . A lot of it was my own fault she thought I didn't want her. I was my own fault for pushing her away you can't do that to people I should off sat down and had a chat with her. She probley just getting her own back really she said I had her for two years why do I want her now so that's what you get for not paying attention too someone. She did tell me she still care about me . But like you say just keep moving on . It would off been nice to have a adult chat with her and clear the air but that's life :)Quote:
Originally Posted by talaniman
Sometimes we don't get that opportunity. I've tried to have the adult chat only to have the other person play the bipolar game with me. One minute they're open to discussing things and clearing the air and next they're cold as ice and want nothing to do with you. I've been down that road only to realize when feelings are involved and people are sensitive, all rational thought goes out the window. Sounds like you're starting a new journey :-)
It's been like a roller coaster for me we have been talking on and of since last sept . I have left it now for quit a bit . I might off come a cross too needy I don't now . We had a bit off a talk sometime she just said it was bad timing I don't now what that means? There not much I can do but just crack on . How long has it been since you split up?Quote:
Originally Posted by here2assist
Gary33
You've been on this rollercoaster for a year. Good Lord! Something and someone that is toxic will drain you and suck up all your good energy. That's what I'm hearing in your case. She may be a good person but if she doesn't want to get back together I would accept it and cut all contact. The whole situation is having ill effects on you and you don't want anyone in your life that brings you down.
Don't you want to meet another and have a fresh, new relationship? I just think when you keep one foot in the past you can't live in the now or look forward. I'm sorry but I would cut all ties with her completely.
As for my sitch I ended things back in early Feb for very good reasons. I being an idiot reached out to him at the end of April interested in friendship. That went over like a lead balloon because he was still hurt and emotional. We ended up fighting via text all day. We agreed to meet up which then took me back on the path of us getting back together. I wanted friendship because I knew it would never work romantically but he had a very manipulative way of pulling me back in. I'm not blaming him as I'm responsible for my own decisions although I do feel like he used control and manipulation to get back in. That lasted a few weeks and eventually blew up in my face. I haven't seen him or been with him since mid May. I'll NEVER get in touch with him again nor will I respond to his attempts. I've gotten back together with three guys in my life and all three failed the second and third time around. Talk about learning my lessons the hard way. Don't make the same mistake. It will probably most likely fail again even if she did come around.
It sounds like you have had a hard time too :( hope your feeling better . I am getting on with my life . I only stayed in contact for about four months and sometimes she was happy to talk. The thing is when we were together I didn't show her any commitment and the last year I had a lot going on but I didn't let her in. And finally when we finished we were going too talk and my head was a bit off a mess I lost someone close to me which really hurt me and I was a bit off a mess and when I tried too sort it she new she had me . She had the power then but the thing is we did get on well we never argued when we were together and her kids really liked me I just wasn't there enough. All her family liked me . I was trying so hard to sort everything else out that I mess my relationship up . I am fine now I have been moving forward for abit now .Quote:
Originally Posted by here2assist
My ex text me after two months off no contact is that a good sign or not she just asked how I was . What should I do? Can you help me .
Do you really want to open that can of worms again to satisfy your, or her curiosity? Do nothing.
| All times are GMT -7. The time now is 12:48 PM. |