My ex of two years broke up with me 3 months ago. We were best friends, spent every day with each other for 9 months before dating. Things were great until 2 months before we broke up. We were essentially living together, and were on different pages. (I took a semester of college to work one job) she took a full load and worked too. She was always stressed and never wanted to do much more than sit around the apartment. We argued about stupid things, and one night after an argument, she told me she didn't know what else to do, than to break up. For 2 weeks I played all the steps wrong, begged, called, texted, went over, she would tell me she loved me but it wouldn't work every time. Went no contact for almost 3 weeks, and she texted me for lunch out of the blue. Ate with her, talked for about 2 hours, all was great. We hung out once more after, then decided it wasn't healthy. No contact again for a week then a call to come over. Went over, she was upset, told me she had met another guy when things fell apart and broke up with me because she couldn't cheat. Said all she had done was regreted letting me go, been miserable and wanted to take me back every night but was too full of guilt. That night, we started kissing, then she asked me to stay. It was great. We both said we need to take things slow and build back up. Didn't happen, we would say we were just friends, but back to sex, kissing etc. she has clinical depression VERY BAD. Big factor in our break up. Said she couldn't get back in a relationship until she learned how to handle it on her own. One day she said she had regressed by acting like a couple and started texting me like plain friends. Came over last week and it was just like another break up. Said she couldn't keep me waiting while she fixed herself, went into hysterics, said she loved me oer and over again, wouldn't let me go or stop kissing me, but told me we probably shouldn't see or talk until I had some time to get over her. Said she was being selfless and doing this for me. So I could be happier. Truth is, I want to marry this girl. Regardless of her depression issues or what happened before. What should I do?

Just let her be, tell her clearly that you want to be there for her and help her through this.. that your there for the long run. Seems like she loves you but doesn't want you to waste your time on a lost cause like her.. (thinking from her point of view) just tell her how you feel be mature about it. This way she nows where you stand and so will you :)

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Originally Posted by Bunnykins

Just let her be, tell her clearly that you want to be there for her and help her through this..that your there for the long run. Seems like she loves you but doesn't want you to waste your time on a lost cause like her..(thinking from her point of view) just tell her how you feel be mature about it. This way she nows where you stand and so will you :)

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Thank you:) Well she texted me today, pages and pages. She said she didn't want to bother me, but she wanted to apologize for everything. She said I'd be better off somewhere else and someone could make me happier. She went on to say she would always love me and wished it would have lasted. She talked about how confused she was in life, but that she knew it was time to move on from this place (town). Told me how much she had grown because of me teaching her to not give up and be herself. She's also moving back to her old place, right down the street from me. And we are both stuck in the same college and town for another year because of prior commitments. I agreed with her, that she needed to move on a press towards her goals, even though I don't want her to go at all. What should I do? Do you think with us being this close she'll come back?