So for the last couple years I've noticed a difference in my mother. She used to tell me about depression running in my family. I found out that she has been taking medication for depresssion, but I'm concerned that it isn't enough. She's constantly sleeping . She will go to bed at 8 and not wake up until noon the next day. She naps a lot too.her lack of motivation is driving me and my dad crazy. She doesn't want to make dinner or do laundry which is forcing me to take care of the house while my dad works and my mom does nothing. I see signs in myself and wish I could just disappear sometimes. I've never felt so alone at my home. My mom also gets irritated at me for no reason or for things I can't control. She makes our house a hostile environment and my dad is almost too scared of her to say something so we live like this. How do I fix it? I'm way over my head with thinking I could actually help her.I 'm 17 and I'm a senior in high school so I'll only be home for another year. I'm worried for my dad. I know he is just as bothered as I am with her. There are days where I wish my parents would just divorce so I wouldn't have to live with my mom. I haven't felt loved by her for years. Please help me make some decisions on what I can do.

This is a pretty weird and serious matter. You and your dad both have to talk over this matter alone away from home. Carefully & lovingly you both have to tell your mother that you both are having problems for her behaviour. Let her know that she needs to be changed. Try slowly, lovingly but really carefully.

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Originally Posted by meganxnicole429

So for the last couple years i've noticed a difference in my mother. she used to tell me about depression running in my family. i found out that she has been taking medication for depresssion, but i'm concerned that it isn't enough. shes constantly sleeping . she will go to bed at 8 and not wake up until noon the next day. she naps alot too.her lack of motivation is driving me and my dad crazy. she doesn't want to make dinner or do laundry which is forcing me to take care of the house while my dad works and my mom does nothing. i see signs in myself and wish i could just disapear sometimes. i've never felt so alone at my home. my mom also gets irritated at me for no reason or for things i can't control. she makes our house a hostile enviroment and my dad is almost too scared of her to say something so we live like this. how do i fix it? i'm way over my head with thinking i could actually help her.i 'm 17 and I'm a senior in high school so i'll only be home for another year. i'm worried for my dad. i know he is just as bothered as i am with her. there are days where i wish my parents would just divorce so i wouldn't have to live with my mom. I haven't felt loved by her for years. please help me make some decisions on what i can do.

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Are you certain she's not OVER medicated? This is your Dad's problem, of course, not yours. I realize your mother is irritated a lot but could your father suggest to her that she have a physical exam to rule out any other problem?

She can't be happy living like this and I think the "secret" is going to be to find someone she will listen to, pay attention to, who can suggest that she speak to a Physician and perhaps a therapist to help herself, if no one else.

You shouldn't have these concerns at 17 - these are adult problems.