No ground in a few outlets
	
	
		I've searched for an answer to my question(s) and gained some insight, but still need some help. 19th century house. A lot of BX with 2-prong outlets and about half electric late installation with plastic wire with ground cable. Main panel (circuit breakers) has ground rod, but to make it more complicated it used to be two family house, so I have two meters and two main panels. Discovered through surge protectors with led's that some outlets have no ground after installing three prong outlet and tying ground to metal box. Testing the metal boxes and bx back to known ground shows no connection. I thought connecting to phone company's ground rod just outside this room would be good idea, but I get no useable ground at all. Phone wires are no longer connected. Later read about concern of imbalance between various ground rods. Tried connecting to water pipes of hot water heating system, but I have a well and get no ground.
I suspect that there may be a disconnect somewhere between a bx cable and a junction box. Is this where to start trying to find the trouble? 
When looking inside breaker panels should both neutral and the ground wire be connected to ground rod ? And ohm meter show 0 from ground rod to any plugs neutral and ground jack ?
If I test with an ohm meter and connect a long lead to the grounding rod or ground plug of good outlet and look for a disconnect by tracing bx wires would this be a good plan ?
In my search I found some junction boxes without covers in the crawl space. They are not attached and not near any combustibles, but feel this should be addressed as well ?
Final question is it logical to think that  I can remove one meter by connecting those wires that feed the other breaker panel inside the house to the first meter ? The meters are side by side and very fat wires feed the breaker panel inside the house. The other meter feeds panel on other side of the same wall. I would hire electrician and coordinate with electric utility of course.
Thanks beforehand.