Ok, this isn't actually a question but more of a sharing of an experience.
My girlfriend and I broke up in April after a year and a half relationship. I was on here heart broken and mentally unstable after it all really. I came on here and asked for advice and help as she was still telling me she loved me, missed me but didn't want to be with me. I felt I was being led on or kept on the end of a string so she could pull me back if things didn't work with other people.
Anyway, I tried everything I could to get her back. I did all the things they tell you not to do... Asked her to come back, asked her to move in with me, asked her to even marry me, I wrote her a letter and sent her a key to my house (she mailed me on Facebook saying I got your key, would you like me to return it) I made her a photo collage with all happy memories on it. Nothing worked and any expert will tell you these things are a bad idea but I felt desperate because I just wanted to get her back.
On the 4th of June I had just had enough. The mixed messages from her- I love you but I just want to be friends, I keep thinking about you but I don't want to get back with you. I miss you but I'm enjoying my single life.. Mailed her and said I love you and this is just too hard for me, I'm sorry, goodbye... Or something to that effect. She replied 'fine' and blocked me from Facebook, I deleted my email account, deleted her phone number and just tried to get on with things.
We had no contact whatsoever. I got a job, spent lots of time with frineds and family and each day that passed I felt less sad.
On the 3rd of July I got a letter in my door from her. She was sorry for the way things ended between us, she misses me, she loves me, wants to meet up and talk and hopes I still feel the same way and wanted us to get back together.
So the no contact thing actually does work. Unfortunately for me and her, I did it too late. I don't want to be back in that relationship. If anyone reads the other posts I left they'd see that the whole break up was awful and I'm happy now. There is no way I'm going to get back into that relationship after everything that happened during the break up.
So anyone who's ging through a break up right now, just trust what these relationship experts say. No contact! It'll either make your ex come back or it'll make you see you can be happier without them. It's win-win.
I still think about her and miss her and miss times we had together but I'm happier now than I've ever been
