I started going out with this man 3months ago. I know he is married and we said no commitment, but we will keep seeing ourseleves, Im beginning to develop feelings for him and he does to and before I met him, his wife was driving him nuts. What can I do to get his attention so we both can be happy together, as that's what we both want now.

What can you do? You tell him that you can't see him until his divorce is final.

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Originally Posted by Jada1989

What can i do to get his attention so we both can be happy together, as thats what we both want now.

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LOL! If you both want that, then why isn't he filing for divorce now? Maybe because he's just going to keep stringing you along.

Wow bad times all around. Find a man who isn't married, if he's cheating on her then you'll be dam sure he'll cheat on you too

Don't be a home wrecker! Shame on you for even asking a question like this. MARRIAGE is something that is very real and that will mark your soul for eternity. (not on from a religios stand point) Put yourself in her shoes, she loves him, she bought the white dress, went to the church, VOWED to love him till death, and HE vowed to love her till death. And now he's sticking it to you. No wonder she is driving him nuts, his guilt is eating him alive on the inside. You are ripping a woman's life into pieces just by speaking to that man, and really all a man has is his word and his is tainted for the mere fact that he vowed to love, honor, cherish, and FORSAKE all others till his dying day. Shame on you again.

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Originally Posted by reidsmomma

dont be a home wrecker! shame on you for even asking a question like this. MARRIAGE is something that is very real and that will mark your soul for eternity. (not on from a religios stand point) Put your self in her shoes, she loves him, she bought the white dress, went to the church, VOWED to love him till death, and HE vowed to love her till death. and now hes sticking it to you. No wonder she is driving him nuts, his guilt is eating him alive on the inside. You are ripping a woman's life into peices just by speaking to that man, and really all a man has is his word and his is tainted for the mere fact that he vowed to love, honor, cherish, and FORSAKE all others till his dying day. Shame on you again.

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Lol I'm not sure how "sacrid" marriage is. I've hooked with married people before, but there's no way I would trust them in any kind of committed relationship.

You respect him and his marriage and back off, he is off limits to you.

Marriage is a sacred commitment that not many respect any more. When a person sleeps with a married person they are setting themselves up for some seriously bad karma.

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marriage is a sacred commitment that not many respect any more. when a person sleeps with a married person they are setting themselves up for some seriously bad karma.

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This is more witchcraft and less advice -

At any rate, if the married man wants to be with OP he should file for divorce.

In the meantime she should occupy herself with someone/something else.

He apparently can look her in the face and lie about where he is, what he's doing, whatever else he needs to lie about to cover his tracks. I'd wonder every time he opened his mouth if what he said was a lie - to me.

Go talk to his wife, don't let him know, sit down, invite her to coffee. Explain to her that you and him are deeply in love and that you will be sure he gives her proper support when they divorce.

She will be thankful for you being so considerate of her feelings and her financial future.
I am sure your boyfriend will not mind letter her have anything she wants, to get out of a hateful relationship and be with you.

He will thank you for it, after they separte and he can be with you all the time.

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Go talk to his wife, don't let him know, sit down, invite her to coffee. Explain to her that you and him are deeply in love and that you will be sure he gives her proper support when they divorce.

She will be thankful for you being so considerate of her feelings and her financial future.
I am sure your boyfriend will not mind letter her have anything she wants, to get out of a hateful relationship and be with you.

he will thank you for it, after they separte and he can be with you all the time.

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This is deffinately the best advice :)

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Originally Posted by Fr_Chuck

Go talk to his wife, don't let him know, sit down, invite her to coffee. Explain to her that you and him are deeply in love and that you will be sure he gives her proper support when they divorce.

She will be thankful for you being so considerate of her feelings and her financial future.
I am sure your boyfriend will not mind letter her have anything she wants, to get out of a hateful relationship and be with you.

he will thank you for it, after they separte and he can be with you all the time.

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I love it when you're tongue in cheek. OP should be certain to actually pay for the coffee so she isn't seen as taking advantage of the wife.

Love this!

This is also good advice when teens post questions about having sex, what is legal and what is not. I'm sure their parents know and they should ask them.

Your best post of the week!