Me and my boyfriend have been together a little over a year now. He proposed to me a few months ago and now we are expecting our first child together. Its his 3rd child my 2nd. But for the past few months he has not shown much affection. He doesn't kiss me unless we are departing. He never says I love you unless I say it first or he is leaving. He can show his children affection, but lacks it on showing me or my daughter. He never initiates sex. If I didn't initiate it, we would never do it. And then he blames me, like its my fault. I'm totally confused on his feelings. He gets aggitated like its an inconvienance to be affectionate... what do I do?

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Originally Posted by htmomma07

me and my boyfriend have been together a lil over a year now. he proposed to me a few months ago and now we are expecting our first child together. its his 3rd child my 2nd. but for the past few months he has not shown much affection. he doesnt kiss me unless we are departing. he never says i love you unless i say it first or he is leaving. he can show his children affection, but lacks it on showing me or my daughter. he never initiates sex. if i didnt initiate it, we would never do it. and then he blames me, like its my fault. im totally confused on his feelings. he gets aggitated like its an inconvienance to be affectionate..... what do i do?

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Have you tried talking to him about it? Communication is the key. Bring is up as a casual conversation. Im sure he'll open up and tell you if something is bothering him.

Did you ask him why he wasn't affectionate lately or even bother to consider what stress he might be under with work, friends kids etc. or what's on his mind?

Was having this child something you both planned or was it an oops!
If you're going to marry this man and make babies, you need to learn how to communicate. Perhaps the strain of a 4th child is weighing heavy on his mind.