I have been with my girlfriend for two years. The first year was amazing, after that we began having little arguments, which gradually would be become larger and more frequent. We now live together and hardly ever get along. The arguments always begin when she finds fault with something that I did/said/didn't do, she'll quickly become upset and blow the situation up. I'm not talking about big things, there's no cheating hear, no abuse.. no lying, she'll get upset over something like me not "reassuring" her enough when she's talking about something that worrys her.

This brings me to another issue, she's always been a bit of a cynic, but this past year she's just started getting really down about everything. She frequently complains that she hates her job, her schooling, has no real friends and isn't getting along with me so she hates her life altogether. Actually, everday she complains about these things. I will try to reassure her by telling her that as long as we have our health and each other, things will workout OK, but this just makes her angry - she does not like being told that everything will be OK, so this would be another example of something I might do which will cause an argument.

She stays angry for days at a time, even if I am very apologetic and go out of my way to do things nice for her to try and make it up to her. I'm not sure what to do here, I love her so much but things just aren't working. We had a fight today and she told me that we've both changed and she doesn't know how she feels about our relationship. She said that she still loves me, but doesn't love me the same way, and no longer feels the depth of emotion she used to. Is my relationship ending? Anyone experienced anything similar? Suggestions?

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Originally Posted by gman4

Is my relationship ending?

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It definitely looks that way.

There's nothing you can do, it's an internal problem that only she can solve.

You ought to break up with her.

For half of this relationship, it sounds like she is being unreasonable and impossible to please, and you spend your time trying to make up for false accusations, and her seemingly unhappy life.

That is a long time to try to coddle a person into adulthood.

Imagine your life with her, 10 years from now, or 20 years. Do you see her changing, being less selfish, better able to talk instead of fight?

Now she's not sure of you at all, as you said. I would say this has been in the works, for a long, long time.

This does not seem like a loving relationship to me, and it isn't likely to be, despite you trying to make everything okay for her.

Most likely she was always like that, the issue when you first get together you are too much in love to notice

If you both can not get into counseling it does not appear it will work

You sound awefully familiar

I know who you are.. your girlfriend loves you to pieces... take some accountability for the rest of the story you neglected to tell