I've been with my boyfriend for 9 years,I've always been abit of weekend company for him,he never wanted me to move in?he flirts with other women on dating sites,lots of times we have broke up and he has slepted with other women,on holiday once he flirted with this other women in front of me,then blamed me because I had my period?when he slept with other women it's my fault because I split up with him,he once told me his ex is the only women he ever thought anything of,afew months ago he punched me in the face,then said it was my fault,he pushed me so hard once I broke my finger in 2 place,but I'm scared to leave him what if I don't find someone else,please help

You have to leave him obviously he is no good, I understand that its been 9yrs and love him but no amount of love should result in you having to go through abuse. This man has no respect for you & you deserve a lot better the longer you put up with his B.S and stick around the more he's going to think it's OK to continue hurting you. Never feel like you will never find someone else just think if he's no loving, caring & respecting you like you want him to then someone else will. Good luck :)

Why on earth would you have wasted 9 years of your life to this fool? Have so self respect and a bit of dignity. Who cares if you don't find someone else? I know many people who are single and love life!

You need to first, get rid of this dead weight (Meaning him) then you need to find a hobby, something you like doing, something that makes you happy. In doing so, finding people who share the same passion, maybe even another man.

I can guarantee there are a lot better guys out there, guys who will treat you the way a woman is meant to be treated. Not abused, and forgotten.