Ugh first off I'm a 20 years old female and I hate how I look sometimes I think I look pretty and some days I don't like how I look at all I've had boyfriends but I don't ever recall a guy actually telling me that I'm pretty and to top it off I was at a cookout yesterday and I've been hearing more than one person insulting me about my looks that's what brings me here I'm just really tired of it yes I can call myself a strong person but I can only take so much I had to deal with it in high school and now I have to deal with it out also I used to have confidence but just me keep hearing it is breaking me down my sister has always been the pretty one and getting all the attention from dudes and she's always talking to me about how some dude tried getting with her that just gets me upset and on top of that one of my exes use to like my sister we got into an argument before and he said don't get mad because your sister looks better than you that brung my confidence down even more I try not to be hurt and to ignore it and be strong at the moment but it sinks in and really gets to me and causing me to be really depressed my family is always saying oh your pretty but if I don't see it I won't believe it ugghhhh I don't know what to do anymore I know I have to believe it but not hearing it from dudes is hurting me thinking I'm ugly SORRY THIS IS LONG...

The word "pretty" ran all through your post. Why is being pretty so important to you?

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Originally Posted by Wondergirl

The word "pretty" ran all through your post. Why is being pretty so important to you?

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It's Important to me because if I'm not called pretty then I won't feel pretty which will make me depressed and I don't want that

You have no other gifts except being pretty (or wanting to be pretty)? Certainly there is more to you than "pretty" and your looks!

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Originally Posted by Suncerary92

Ugh first off I'm a 20 years old female and I hate how I look sometimes I think I look pretty and some days I don't like how I look at all I've had boyfriends but I don't ever recall a guy actually telling me that I'm pretty and to top it off i was at a cookout yesterday and I've been hearing more than one person insulting me about my looks that's what brings me here I'm just really tired of it yes I can call myself a strong person but I can only take so much I had to deal with it in high school and now I have to deal with it out also I used to have confidence but just me keep hearing it is breaking me down my sister has always been the pretty one and getting all the attention from dudes and she's always talking to me about how some dude tried getting with her that just gets me upset and on top of that one of my exes use to like my sister we got into an argument before and he said don't get mad because your sister looks better than you that brung my confidence down even more I try not to be hurt and to ignore it and be strong at the moment but it sinks in and really gets to me and causing me to be really depressed my family is always saying oh your pretty but if I don't see it I won't believe it ugghhhh I don't know what to do anymore I know I have to believe it but not hearing it from dudes is hurting me thinking I'm ugly SORRY THIS IS LONG.........

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It seems that you let guys define your beauty based on if they perceive you as pretty. The question that matters is do you see yourself as beautiful, not just pretty? Also, in regards people insulting your looks, you may want to somewhat change your environment of association as it should be up-building. And there is nothing wrong with changing something about yourself it you don't like it. There are going to be people who think you're ugly and people who will think you're pretty. Everyone holds their own opinion and that's just how life is.