Hi

I have recently split from girlfriend of 2 years ,she n1st wanted space but could not handle this as I have life to, we lived together and done everything together, I miss so much still it hurts, she says there is nt that wow factor anymore like when we first met she doesn't feel the same ,I am idiot at the mo I keep texting and ringing to find out what she is up to or doing she soes none of this which makes me angry ,how can I overcome this not text not phone and just get on with my life
Thanks

Well you have you behaviors of an idiot but you are not an idiot. The reason I know that is because you at least recognize something's wrong and are attempting to do something about it. An idiot will always be an idiot, a smart man will get answers and improve himself.

The first thing you have to do is quit contacting her. She said you changed in the relationship and I bet I can tell you exactly what happened in those 2 years that made her lose the "Wow factor." At first she came to you when she wanted to and you either stood your ground or you didn't need her as much as she needed you. At some poin the roles switched and you started leaning on her and she didn't know what to do because she used to think of you differently as someone she could lean on. When she became the one that was leading the relationship on a emotional level she became disinterested.

That being said I'd recommend making a list of things that you want to do in the short term only. Hang that list up so that you see it when you go to sleep and when you wake up and start working on those things. The more you focus on those things the better you'll start to feel and less you'll think of her.

I also recommend that if you don't have a gym membership you get one. Working out is a great way to get out of the house but also make yourself feel better. Get on a elliptical or stairmaster and just go for 10 or 15 minutes. Get off and rest and then do it again for another 10 or 15 minutes. I promise you, you won't be thinking about anything else other than what your doing. Plus it's healthy for you. Even if you don't get a gym membership take a walk, and go for long ones if you have the time. It gets you out the house, clears you head, and makes is healthy for you. If you have something else you like that's physical do that. Anything that creates motion in your body is good for you.

MR man to my best of nollge if a girl is calling you idiot that is like is no mor intresting in u
The best way to do is to fing another girl that can love u because I don't think the other girl still have love for u

Focusing on work or a hobby or the things you have neglected during this relationship and friends who enjoy what you do. Basically stay busy doing the things it takes to build a life you enjoy with out her. It will be hard but it sems you've already accepted the fact that this is over and that's a good sign.Time and hard work on yourself will ease the pain. Good Luck.

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Originally Posted by trouble7999

Hi

I have recently split from girlfriend of 2 years ,she n1st wanted space but could not handle this as i ahve life to, we lived together and done everything together, i miss so much still it hurts, she says there is nt that wow factor anymore like when we first met she doesnt feel the same ,i am idiot at the mo i keep texting and ringing to find out what she is up to or doing she soes none of this which makes me angry ,how can i overcome this not text not phone and just get on with my life
thanks

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Think you just got to. I was in two year relationship,mine is a bit different to yours but so far a avent text or rang him for 5 days today,its killing me but I don't want to drive him away.try your best not to text,I'm a great believer in fait and if its meant to be it will b.