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  • Jul 6, 2012, 07:03 AM
    kkc2014
    1st time and I didn't bleed... is that bad?
    Me and my boyfriend had sex for the first time for both of us and I didn't bleed. I told him that I did because I was scared that he would think that I had sex before. I was reading somewhere that if girls are into sports going up that they may have broke it then or if they use tampons but I don't use them. From the time I was 2 I was doing sports(I still am). I've done gymnastics, dance, cheerleadin, tennis, basketball, and I used to ride horses. Could that be why I didn't bleed?

    ****MOVED from Adult Sexuality due to poster's age****
  • Jul 6, 2012, 07:58 AM
    JudyKayTee
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by kkc2014 View Post
    Me and my bf had sex for the first time for both of us and I didn't bleed. I told him that I did bc I was scared that he would think that I had sex before. I was readin somewhere that if girls r into sports goin up that they may have broke it then or if they use tampons but I don't use them. From the time I was 2 I was doin sports(I still am). I've done gymnastics, dance, cheerleadin, tennis, basketball, and I used to ride horses. Could that be why I didn't bleed?

    You didn't bleed because somehow along the way your hymen was broken.

    Bleeding or not bleeding is not proof of virginity.
  • Jul 6, 2012, 07:59 AM
    smoothy
    How old are you right now?
  • Jul 6, 2012, 08:35 AM
    JudyKayTee
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by smoothy View Post
    How old are you right now?

    Me, I'm around 25 - WAY around 25.
  • Jul 6, 2012, 08:37 AM
    Fr_Chuck
    Bleeding is not a actual sign of being a virgin. If you do, OK, if you don't it just means you did not.

    You should never start a bad habit of lying, he would know you did not bleed, if he did not have to wash blood off his penis after wards.
  • Jul 7, 2012, 08:36 AM
    Pr3tty_in_pink
    Some women are born without a hymen.
  • Jul 9, 2012, 01:16 PM
    CravenMorhead
    I think until we hear the OPs age we shouldn't be responding.
  • Jul 9, 2012, 07:23 PM
    kkc2014
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by smoothy View Post
    How old are you right now?
    I'm 16 almost 17
  • Jul 10, 2012, 12:57 PM
    flower_girl
    I hve heard that horse riding can sometimes break your hymen darling... just don't worry about it.. ts actually normal even if it does not bleed! I broke mine by skipping rope but I' am still a virgin and I' am 19 :P
  • Jul 10, 2012, 01:01 PM
    ScottGem
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by kkc2014 View Post
    I'm 16 almost 17
    It is possible your hymen was broken from sports activity.

    And are you read y to have a child? No one should be engaging in sexual intercourse unless they are ready to have a child.
  • Jul 11, 2012, 01:58 AM
    kkc2014
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by ScottGem View Post
    It is possible your hymen was broken from sports activity.

    And are you read y to have a child? No one should be engaging in sexual intercourse unless they are ready to have a child.
    I have a job and so does my boyfriend and Ik that we could take care of a baby... We watch my sisters baby all the time and we have been since she was born and she is 2 months old so yeah I think we could raise a baby
  • Jul 11, 2012, 03:03 AM
    ScottGem
    That's not quite the question. Do you understand that it takes over $280,000 to raise a child until 18, approximately $15K of that the first year! And that doesn't include the costs of health care during pregnancy and delivery. Do you understand that babysitting is very different from full time care. Your lives would radically change. You would no longer be able to go out, hang with friends, etc. No more of your sports activity, since almost all your free time would be taken up by the baby.

    Your answer to my question shows that you actually aren't prepared.
    That you are children playing at being adults.
  • Jul 11, 2012, 08:06 AM
    kkc2014
    Im not trying to be mean or thing because I'm sure that your older than me but I didn't come on here to have you tell me the same thing that his parents did and you don't know my life style but I don't go out and party or hangout with friends... I just wanted to know one thing and Ik it now... I'm sorry if that sounded like I was being disrespcetful because that's not what I was trying to do
  • Jul 11, 2012, 08:27 AM
    ScottGem
    No you weren't being disrespectful. And you are right I don't know what you life style is. But we have too many teens coming on here who have no understanding of the realities of having a child. They see adults doing something and want to grow up too fast by emulating adult behavior before they are ready.

    I see I may have underestimated you to some extent. And for that I apologize. But I still strongly believe that you are too young to be engaging in sexual intercourse. But, if you are going to engage in adult behaviors then be responsible and make sure you use protection.
  • Jul 11, 2012, 08:38 AM
    Fr_Chuck
    And the fact that his parents, who do know you, would say the same thing, it appears there may be some truth to it. There are years and years ahead to have babies, but only one chance of learning to be a couple for 3 to 5 years first to work out the marriage issues before all the baby problems. A baby does not help a relationsihp, it will cause many new problems.
  • Jul 12, 2012, 07:52 AM
    kkc2014
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by ScottGem View Post
    No you weren't being disrespectful. And you are right I don't know what you life style is. But we have too many teens coming on here who have no understanding of the realities of having a child. They see adults doing something and want to grow up too fast by emulating adult behavior before they are ready.

    I see I may have underestimated you to some extent. And for that I apologize. But I still strongly believe that you are too young to be engaging in sexual intercourse. But, if you are going to engage in adult behaviors then be responsible and make sure you use protection.
    We only did it once and we both know it was a mistake and we arnt planin on doing it again anyway and we have been datin since 7th grade that's 5 years this October and we have been friends about all our lifes so we know each other pretty well... but I do thank you for being concern
  • Jul 13, 2012, 08:15 AM
    CravenMorhead
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by CravenMorhead View Post
    I think until we hear the OPs age we shouldn't be responding.
    Not so much to the quote but to the bad rep/reddie I got.

    It was a spam rep. Does this happen a lot? It was for a "Merkle and Direct Marketing Association" pyramid scheme or some sort of scam.

    Not to hijack or derail the question at hand.
  • Jul 13, 2012, 08:20 AM
    JudyKayTee
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by CravenMorhead View Post
    Not so much to the quote but to the bad rep/reddie I got.

    It was a spam rep. Does this happen a lot? It was for a "Merkle and Direct Marketing Association" pyramid scheme or some sort of scam.

    Not to hijack or derail the question at hand.

    I reported the reddie as unwarranted and advertising
  • Jul 13, 2012, 08:28 AM
    CravenMorhead
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by JudyKayTee View Post
    I reported the reddie as unwarranted and advertising
    Thanks. I appreciate that. :-)

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