Ask Me Help Desk - How to get rid of an ex girlfriend?

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So she broke with me in March for another guy who dumped her after a week. But during the time that they we dating she called me talking about how she gave the necklace I got her to her new boyfriend. I pretty much just ignored that because I didn't want to her to say that I'm trying to start something with her boyfriend or that I just jealous. So after they broke up she started texting me and calling my phone. I just didn't answer her calls and deleted all the voice mails and texts she left with reading or listening to them. It's kind of hard to avoid her because with have some of the same friends. I tried to be nice to her but that isn't working.

I've been keeping my distances from her and not listening and walking away when she tries to talk to me. There was one incident during school where she came over to where I was eating lunch and kick me because I wasn't eating at the same table like I did before, She told me to get up and come over there, but I said no. After that she threatens to run me over with her day motorcycle if I didn't. I still refuse and she got pissed and walked away. I don't know what her deal is. I thought over the summer she leaves me alone, but instead she called me from a phone I didn't know. So when I heard her voice I hung up in her face. Then she calls me from that phone 10 times and leaves a message saying that she just trying to get on with her life and that until I answer my phone she'll call 10 times a day.

So far there haven't been any calls from her, but this has happen where she gets pissed and won't talk then just starts blowing up my phone. I just can't deal with this anymore. I feel that if I break her heart so bad she'll leave me alone. I've even had a friend sent her a video of me burning the bear and rose she gave me hoping that would convince her, but didn't work. She was nice when we first met, but now she has just changed so much. I'm still trying to get her to leave me alone.

Talking to someone face to face is usually the best way to get a message across. Try telling her in person that you don't want to have anything to do with her anymore.

You can just keep ignoring her, eventually she will get the hint. If she doesn't, maybe talk to your parents, have them talk to hers. Does the trick sometimes.

WOW. She is the girl Who Will Not Be Ignored, 2012 teenage style (alien to some of us old folks). You are doing the right thing (although I'm not so sure about the burning bear video, which just fanned the flames I think). Eventually everyone gives up. You may need to enlist more friends to explain to her that you just plain old won't ever get the old feelings back, and kicking your chair and phone stalking make it worse.

You just continue to ignore her. Having your friends do things and making videos just lets her know she has your attention.
Completely ignore her.

Cut the chats to a minimum and they will slowly stop as will those feelings for her.

Leave her completely alone, and turn your phone off, block her, and forget even trying to be friends with this aggressive, overbearing nut case. Are you crazy, she is an attention seeker who turns mean when she doesn't get what she wants.

I would just tell her straight to leave you alone. But you have to leave her alone too! Stop the half stepping.

For anyone who read this question I'm if sorry you may missed understood my question. There were two different questions that were merged together by mistake I think. The first few paragraphs were about my ex girlfriend and part of the last paragraph was about a different girl I was starting to like. I'm sorry for that. I hope this clears some things up.

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Originally Posted by talaniman

Leave her completely alone, and turn your phone off, block her, and forget even trying to be friends with this aggressive, overbearing nut case. Are you crazy, she is an attention seeker who turns mean when she doesn't get what she wants.

I would just tell her straight to leave you alone. But you have to leave her alone too! Stop the half stepping.

I'm sorry if you may missed understood my question. There were two different questions that were merged together by mistake I think. The first few paragraphs were about my ex girlfriend and part of the last paragraph was about a different girl I was starting to like. I'm sorry for that. I hope this clears some things up.

We have a class together. We are constantly joking and chatting when we are in class or over Facebook. We have a few things in common. I haven't told her I like her and don't plan to tell her for two reasons. 1. I'm not sure that she feels the same. 2. She already has a boyfriend which makes thing very awkward for me. Just my luck right? She has told me right now they're on a long distance relationship because he has gone off to college, but I still know that I don't have a chance. She has also said they been dating for 7 months. I want to still be friends with her, but I just want to get rid of the feelings I have for her. Even though we don't see each other in person now we still chat over Facebook. Any advice would be very helpful. She 16 and I'm 17.

The girl who has a boyfriend, leave her alone. You are setting yourself up for heartbreak and it's tacky.
You cannot get rid of the feelings for her if you are chatting with her.

I am so sorry to get your questions so mixed up. I hope the new edit is acceptable, let me know.

But leave girls with boyfriends alone if you cannot stay within the boundaries of JUST friends. Say nothing of your feelings, and don't fall in to the trap of getting carried away by your wants, and feelings.