Ask Me Help Desk - Relationship confusion

:( IM SO SAD I Don't KNOW WAT TO DO. Our relationship started a year back from now. At start we were just friends, then gradually we turned into best friends and then he became my boyfriend. He used to love me a lot. I often used to think can someone love someone in this way? He could do literally ANYTHING to make me smile. But he's not the same now. He started changing. He started giving me less and less importance. He started ignoring me. I asked him why hez so changed. But he doesn't seem to accept. In turn he says I have changed. I am the one who is always in tension. Some people say its because we used to go outside often so he lost all the attraction. When I said this to him he says no that's not the reason. When I ask him why he tortures me like this he says " I love u, n u think wrong". Im totally confused. I've started taking traquillizers, I'm becoming addicted, he shouts at me for doing this, but I feel like my nerves will burst. HOW CAN I GET THE SAME MAN BACK? Does someone have any clue?

With all due respect it sounds like the one who changed was you.

I'm sure he's not the same as you say but since you've only been together for a year I bet he was always like he is but when you "butterflies" wore off you started seeing him as he always was.

But if your taking tranquillizers you're the one that's changed. The fact that you have to resort to that to fill a void tells me there's something you needed to take care of long before your boyfriend came into your life. What that void is I can't tell you but I'd suggest you find it and either seek professional help for it or at least start working on figuring out how you can put something positive in your life instead of what your doing now.

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Originally Posted by lonely

:( IM SO SAD I DONT KNOW WAT TO DO. our relationship started a year back from now. at start we were just friends, then gradually we turned into best friends n then he became my boyfriend. he used to love me alot. i often used to think can someone love someone in this way? he could do literally ANYTHING to make me smile. but hes not the same now. he started changing. he started giving me less and less importance. he started ignoring me. i asked him why hez so changed. but he doesnt seem to accept. in turn he says i have changed. I am the one who is always in tension. some ppl say its because we used to go outside often so he lost all the attraction. when i said this to him he says no thats not the reason. when i ask him why he tortures me like this he says " I love u, n u think wrong". Im totally confused. iv started taking traquillizers, im becoming addicted, he shouts at me for doing this, but i feel like my nerves will burst. HOW CAN I GET THE SAME MAN BACK? does someone have any clue?

I'm kind of in the same situation. You obviously like him otherwise you would have dumped him already me too. I can't tell you much. I don't know what to do either. If you come to a solution tell me. I would like the help as well. Later