Ask Me Help Desk - How to convince girlfriend

I like one girl for last 3years. She was in my college & I proposed her in last year. We are from different caste & hence, she said no to me.Though we were good friends we used to have lot of fights, she used to stop speaking with me & I used to end up saying sorry to her! These things were daily affair in our life. When She stopped speaking with me, I used Facebook to know what's going on in her life.If she get to know about this she won't speak with me at all. Meanwhile when everything was normal I told her that I kept track of her with the help of local boy in her area. Then she became so angry on me and still not speaking with me.she said it was so cheap but, I have not done anything like that. But she will get angry if I tell her about Facebook info. We had done lot of fights. She says she has given me lot of chances but I only trouble her but that's not the fact. I did all this as I care for her & still love her.I am not forcing her to marry me but expecting to treat me nicely. She treats all other people in her life nicely but not with me. She doesn't even meet me. Then I lose control and do something which she doesn't like and she gets the chance to punish me. She knows how much I love her & can't live without her. But now she says don't keep contact with me and go away from my life. I want to tell her that If she treats me nicely then I will be better than what I am. I don't want to lose her in any case what do I do? :( :( :(

Sounds to me like she doesn't love you. Were you two ever in a relationship, or just good friends? Asking a good friend to marry you, and following her by friends and Facebook is borderline stalking.

Leave this poor girl alone, before you get hurt, emotionally.

I'm reading between the lines of what you're telling us here and it sounds like you have become quite a nuisance in this girls life. You had a local boy follow her to give you information, you watch her Facebook, she stopped speaking to you but you continue with this, you "lose control and do something which she doesn't like", and now she has told you to leave her alone but you continue.

So yeah, I can fully see why she wants nothing to do with you. You are STALKING and HARASSING her. Keep it up and she may get smart and get the authorities involved.

Let go... walk away. Leave her alone. She doesn't care about you, Doesn't want you in her life. You can't make someone care about you... especially now after all this crap you've pulled on her. Just leave her alone and find someone else to bother.

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Originally Posted by odinn7

I'm reading between the lines of what you're telling us here and it sounds like you have become quite a nuisance in this girls life. You had a local boy follow her to give you information, you watch her facebook, she stopped speaking to you but you continue with this, you "lose control and do something which she doesn't like", and now she has told you to leave her alone but you continue.

So yeah, I can fully see why she wants nothing to do with you. You are STALKING and HARASSING her. Keep it up and she may get smart and get the authorities involved.

Let go...walk away. Leave her alone. She doesn't care about you,. doesn't want you in her life. You can't make someone care about you...especially now after all this crap you've pulled on her. Just leave her alone and find someone else to bother.

Ididn't harasse her! I didn't use any local guy. I told her so. I used her friend's Facebook account to keep track of her. But unable to tell her this as she will still get angry.I did it as I was caring about her health as she broke contact eith me & she was ill also at that time. We are only good friends but when feeling like 'love' came in between she said thanks for proposing me & said she was knowing this. But then her behaviour changed. & there was no other way to know about her so I did this. & I can't spend my 1day without speaking with her,she knows it hence, she uses this weapon. Now you tell who is harassing whom?? Thanks for previous reply!

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Originally Posted by C0bra_M3nace

Sounds to me like she doesn't love you. Were you two ever in a relationship, or just good friends? Asking a good friend to marry you, and following her by friends and facebook is borderline stalking.

Leave this poor girl alone, before you get hurt, emotionally.

No we were not in relationship, she said no at start! But I love her...
Ididn't harass her! I didn't use any local guy. I told her so. I used her friend's Facebook account to keep track of her. But unable to tell her this as she will still get angry.I did it as I was caring about her health as she broke contact eith me & she was ill also at that time. We are only good friends but when feeling like 'love' came in between she said thanks for proposing me & said she was knowing this. But then her behaviour changed. & there was no other way to know about her so I did this. & I can't spend my 1day without speaking with her,she knows it hence, she uses this weapon. Now you tell who is harassing whom?? Thanks for previous reply!

You don't know the definition of harass do you?

ha·rass /həˈræs, ˈhærəs/ [huh-ras, har-uhs]
verb (used with object)

1. to disturb persistently; torment, as with troubles or cares; bother continually; pester; persecute.
2. to trouble by repeated attacks, incursions, etc., as in war or hostilities; harry; raid.

This is what you are doing to her. She has asked you to stop numerous times, and you continue. You do not love her, you were never in a relationship with her, you're simply blind, blind by your attraction.

Leave this poor girl alone. Seriously. You're making of fool of yourself, and her.

But I have changed myself now! She has B'day at 18 July. What can I do to convience her. Tell any Idea to convience her. I don't want to lose her give some Idea yaar!

The best thing you can do for her is leave her the hell alone. You're crazy, borderline sociopathic and just plain stupid if you can't see that you are harassing and stalking her.

You need serious help.

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Originally Posted by TrueHeart27

But I have changed myself now! she has B'day at 18 july. What can I do to convience her. Tell any Idea to convience her. I don't want to lose her give some Idea yaar!!

You still don't get it. After what we've told you on top of the way she has told you to leave her alone, you just don't get it at all.

You are harassing her. Clearly you are. You are obsessing over her and you just can't let it go. Why do you feel the need to keep pushing her?

I hope she does something about this because I feel sorry for her. Just from what you've posted here I can see how bad it is for her and I'm thinking it will probably get worse unless she does something about you.