My boyfriend and I have had sex about 5 different times and it's good and he always gets off but I don't but sometimes I feel like he may not be enjoying it that much I just want to know what I can do to improve our sex life

Our answers will vary depending on your ages. How old are the both of you?

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Originally Posted by J_9

Our answers will vary depending on your ages. How old are the both of you?

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I'm 19 he is 20

I'm not sure if you're asking how YOU can climax or what you should be doing to make sex better for him.

What form of birth control are you using?

We are using Condoms and I'm asking how to make it more pleasurable for both of us

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Originally Posted by Nandhi

We are using Condoms and I'm asking how to make it more pleasurable for both of us

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Has he been complaining? Why do you think he wants more pleasure?

Sounds like he is not having a problem, I think you misunderstand the climax for women, and have watched too much movies. Women seldom climax during actual sex, they need to do so before they begin perhaps a couple times, or at least afterwards. Often the man gets lazy after, so push for the before.

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Originally Posted by Wondergirl

Has he been complaining? Why do you think he wants more pleasure?

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Because I know we both hard a very high sex drive and I know he likes it rough and fast most of the time and I try to do it as much as I can but I get tired

Rough and fast is good?

So it is satisfying for him, but not for you.

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Originally Posted by Wondergirl

Rough and fast is good?

So it is satisfying for him, but not for you.

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Yes it is but sometimes I need him to slow down what can I do to make both of us feel good but still going slowly?

Is he romantic at other times and does sweet things for you and to you and with you during the day? -- romantic little love notes or a caress to your cheek or a kiss on the back of your neck or on your shoulder or cuddling while watching a movie or TV?

Yes he is a very sweet caring person who loves to cuddle I think that sex is an outlet for him and me to show our other more raunchy side

Would he ever be willing to have sweet, lingering sex instead of raunchy sex?

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Rough and fast is good?

So it is satisfying for him, but not for you.

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I think this is going somewhere - is he selfish when it comes to sex? In time, as he gets rougher and faster what are you going to do?

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Would he ever be willing to have sweet, lingering sex instead of raunchy sex?

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Yes I think he would be willing to

[QUOTE=JudyKayTee;3179493]I think this is going somewhere - is he selfish when it comes to sex? In time, as he gets rougher and faster what are you going to do?[/QUOTE

I will handle it I just needed help trying to make sex feel better for us is there any positions or anything we could try

It sounds like he is doing fine, and the position used works for him. I'm worried that you aren't receiving full pleasure. Have you ever been on top so that you can control the situation?

Yes but I am not that experienced so I find myself worrying whether Im doing it right more than I am enjoying it

None of us went to school to learn how. There's no training or license for it. You do what works for you and for him. I'm still worried about you and your enjoyment. I suspect you are burying your own needs to keep him happy.

Do you have a library card?

Go to your library and check out The Joy of Sex by Alex Comfort, 613.9.