Im 23 years old and my boyfriend is 32. I lead him on to believe that he was able to give me mulitple orgasims in one session. I am tired of not having any, and I want to tell him without crushing his feelings. What can I do?
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Im 23 years old and my boyfriend is 32. I lead him on to believe that he was able to give me mulitple orgasims in one session. I am tired of not having any, and I want to tell him without crushing his feelings. What can I do?
If you do not tell him now, when do you plan to? Are you planning on any long term relationship with this guy? Why did you lead him on? To avoid hurting his feelings? While you did not receive any satisfaction? Are you passive in other dealings?
He deserves to know. If you care about him at all, he has the right to know. You two need to sit down and be open and honest, especially about having a sexual relationship. If there is something he can do, some technique, etc. then why shouldn't he know? I would think he would want to really please you. If the tables were turned and you were not satisfying him, would he tell you?
If you cannot have open and honest communication about the sexual part of your relationship, then maybe you need to look at yourself a bit deeper. Did you ever have this problem before this boyfriend? If you did not, what happened with this relationship?
Telling him the truth now will cause him some pain. But if you approach this with a non critical attitude perhaps you and he can work through this. Good luck.
If you know what gives you more pleasure you may need to show him/lead him in that direction. Good that you are concerned about his feeling but he will be excited to find new ways to please you, especially real ones.
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My partner and I eventually learned to deal in rock bottom truth with each other but before we got there, we initially created what we called "Amnesty Days" where we cleared up those things we might not have been absolutely forthcoming about with the understanding that it would be forgiven. Best foot forward was tanamount to little white lies in those days but neither of us was comfortable with that as we grew closer. So fibs were fixed and apologies made and fortunately nothing serious turned up too. I think we had maybe two or three of these in the first few years and they helped immensely. If you two have the rapport we found, you'll be laughing over this one day!
Im assuming this is the same boyfriend that can't come even though you have sex sessions lasting 2 to 2 1/2 hours?
Well perhaps you both have some deeper lying issues that need to be sorted out.
Perhaps it is time you sat down and spoke to him about this and also thought about the possibility of seeing a sex therapist together.
I really like the idea of an aministy day. That sounds like a good idea. I main objective in the first place was to not hurt his ego. He has this attitude that he is a sex god and that he can just blow me away but in actuallity, he can't do too much.
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