So , I've been going out with my boyfriend over 5 years and we've been berkering about the pornsites and pictures For awhile but I feel really uncomfortable and unwanted it's really fustrating. Im one of those people that have affectionate feelings and scared to lose their boyfriend well, my boyfriend started to watch porn in March until now June and He's been hiding it and changing his password on his phone so I wouldn't check He Has Been Lying Lately the first time I let it go and he promises that he won't do again and 2 time I told him not to and after that it kept going to the point I started to cry and feel like my body is fat and I don't do what the girls on the clips do. Yeah I know, it's a man thing but common dude , if your going to keep on doing it rather then be sinqle then sit here missing you while your watching whores . I send him pictures videos we have a awsome sex life. He is my first love . I just want to know what should I do? I feel like I don't trust him. 5 years are like going down the drain . Im having bad feelings about this like I can't even sleep . Every Girl is beautiful but if you want to look at other girls go ahead explore. When he is somewhere with out me I got a billions of things in my head that are negative. But I Love Him But I Don't want a stupid pornsite in my head for life or ruin this relationship . What should I say to him so he understands how I feel? What should I do ? Helpp .

Hello... Hey gal... don't b upset and feel insecure only becoz of this reason... as per the information provided bt you, I will say that he is not demanded any thng similar as the gals in video do... n trust me.. he finds you beautiful that's why he is with you... you should give him little space... n its normal... I thnk every guy watches porn... so don't bother yourself about tat... all the best for your future ahead...

Ok... fist matter at hand here... you aren't his mom... he is entitled to watch porn if he wants... he is an adult.

Second thing... this has ZERO to do with you... you need to learn to get over it because if it wasn't this, then it would be something else you are going to blame yourself esteem issues on. And avoiding dealing with your personal issues will not help the relationship, or your esteem issue either. Blaming it on porn is you refusing to face it and deal with I. And he WILL develop serious resentment over time.

And trust me... the odds that he eventually dumps you will be high if you continue.

If I was him I'd lock and change my password on my phone and computer too... snooping is downright rude and a violation of his personal space and proof you can' be trusted.

I bet you would be getting bent out of shape if it was him demanding you not do a long list of things and was going through your purse, computer, phone... drawers etc..

And last, he isn't comparing you to any of them, why should you compare yourself.. And let me tell you something... I as a man have far more impure thoughts about the actress Jessica Alba than I do most porn stars.

What do you do, grow up and mature,

So he watches porn, he only lies to you since you are so mean about it and try to force him to change

So YOU tell him YOU are sorry and he can watch it, and that while it bothers you ( your problem not his) you know he will. And that he does not have to lie to you any more.

Next you stop checking his phone ( most men would have dumped you at that point)

He must really love you since any man I know would have left you by the side of the road by now acting like this trying to control and check on him

It is not about YOU, he is not wanting them, it is make believe and it is not effecting your relationship except where you are causing it.

Hello Chick
I know exactly how you feel my husband started watching porn and I used to check the history on the computer to see what sites he went on and compared myself to these women. It effected me emotionally and felt so depressed that I started to get unsecure and my life felt so depressed. When I confronted him he was like it porn so what.

The best thing you can do and what I did was watch it with him and don’t compare yourself with these women your amazing and beautiful because if you won't then you boyfriend wouldn’t still be with you.

If you carry on crying and nagging your boyfriend about porn he will go distance from you and he will continue to hide things from you and this could cause more problems in your relationship

Me and my husband watch porn together and its amazing we speak about why he watches what he gets from it and now I think why the hell was I upset about that its silly. My husband is so open about things now because he knows I'm understanding the more you nag the more your partner will hide things not because they doing wrong but the fact they can’t be asked with the headache.

Trust me it be the best thing u’l do :)

First Of All Im Only 16 I'm Not Adult . It Just Bothers I Just Want To Tell I Don't Like Im Not Trying To ActLike A Mom I Just Don't Want to Follow My Parents My Mom Said My Dad Left Her For Porn He Thought She Was Ugly And Fat But I Just Don't Like It I Just Wanted A. Answer To Tell Him Im Uncomfortable With It . Okay

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Hello Chick
I know exactly how you feel my husband started watching porn and i used to check the history on the computer to see what sites he went on and compared myself to these women. It effected me emotionally and felt so depressed that i started to get unsecure and my life felt so depressed. when i confronted him he was like it porn so what.

The best thing you can do and what i did was watch it with him and don’t compare yourself with these women your amazing and beautiful because if you wont then you boyfriend wouldn’t still be with you.

If you carry on crying and nagging your boyfriend about porn he will go distance from you and he will continue to hide things from you and this could cause more problems in your relationship

Me and my husband watch porn together and its amazing we speak about why he watches what he gets from it and now i think why the hell was i upset about that its silly. My husband is so open about things now because he knows im understanding the more you nag the more your partner will hide things not because they doing wrong but the fact they can’t be asked with the headache.

Trust me it be the best thing u’l do :)

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You live with your mother-in-law and apparently she's part of everything that goes on. How do you watch porn with her drifting around?

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First Of All Im Only 16 I'm Not Adult . It Just Bothers I Just Want To Tell I Dont Like Im Not Trying To ActLike A Mom I Just Dont Wanna Follow My Parents My Mom Said My Dad Left Her For Porn He Thought She Was Ugly And Fat But I Just Dont Like It I Just Wanted A. Answer To Tell Him Im Uncomfortable With It . Okay

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You're 16 and have been "with" your boyfriend for 5 years, since you were 11?

I've never known anyone who left anyone because of what he watched - porn or no porn. Maybe that's an easy explanation for your mother. I don't really know.

So - here's what you do. You say to him, "I'm uncomfortable with the amount of porn you watch." He says, "What do you want me to do?" You say either that you want him to stop or you're breaking up with him.

He then either leaves or watches behind your back.

You may not want to act like a "Mom" - but that is how you are acting.

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You live with your mother-in-law and apparently she's part of everything that goes on. How do you watch porn with her drifting around?

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LOL my husband don't watch much porn anymore to be honest and when we do we are in our bedroom when my mother in law is asleep or sometimes we go on weekend breaks away

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You're 16 and have been "with" your boyfriend for 5 years, since you were 11?

I've never known anyone who left anyone because of what he watched - porn or no porn. Maybe that's an easy explanation for your mother. I don't really know.

So - here's what you do. You say to him, "I'm uncomfortable with the amount of porn you watch." He says, "What do you want me to do?" You say either that you want him to stop or you're breaking up with him.

He then either leaves or watches behind your back.

You may not want to act like a "Mom" - but that is how you are acting.

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Thank You I Let Him Watch It But Im At That Point You Know . But Thanks. (:

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Thank You I Let Him Watch It But Im At That Point You Know . But Thanks. (:

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There's the problem -- "I LET him watch it."

What does he let you do?

This is my problem - you don't think you act like his Mom but you LET him watch it - ?

You ALLOW him to watch it? Yes, you're acting like his mother.

Its clear... that explains it all... they are a child of 16.. they aren't capable of acting like an adult yet. This entire thread has been reported.

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Its clear....that explains it all...they are a child of 16..they aren't capable of acting like an adult yet. This entire thread has been reported.

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Well, they do have an awesome sex life aside from the berkering.

And, of course, the possibility that this is/was legal rape.

Other than that -

Due to the age of the OP, this has been moved from Adult Sexuality (where the age limit is 18) to Child and Teen Health.