My boyfriend and I have been together for close to a year, and we haven't had sex. We've done everything else and we've gotten close to having sex, but every time we get there, I tense up. An ex of mine wanted to have sex when I was pretty young and I wasn't ready, he only made it in before I screamed and stopped him and now I'm so afraid of the pain... I'm just so tired of disappointing myself and my boyfriend. I've started taking the pill and am seeing an OB/GYN, but how can we get past the way I'm feeling? I feel that I'm ready until we make it into the bedroom, and then he can't even enter me before I freak myself out and change my mind. Has anyone else experienced this? How did you get past it?

It's all in your head. I think he should make it romantic for you. Don't make it to the room. What do you think you need/want? Does he satisfy you orally? This may help.