Having an affair both of us married he told me he doesn't want to be to comfortable in his house having sex n then he feels akward or he doesn't want me to feel akward when I leave after sex he wants something between what does that mean..

No idea what it means. I am having trouble making sense out of your punctuation free run-on sentence.

Anyway, both of you are cheaters... should we help you? Why? Why cheat? If you're not happy at home, do counseling or get a divorce.