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  • Jun 25, 2012, 07:18 AM
    Ashleynole5467
    Why won't he ask me out?
    Dustin and I have been talking for awhile now and we established that we like each other. Dustin said that we are "talking" what you do before you date. I'm ready to move on from "talking" because we basically act like we're dating. I've never likes a guy so much and I don't know if asking him out would help me any. HELP ME! :(
  • Jun 25, 2012, 07:50 AM
    Homegirl 50
    How long have you been"talking"?
  • Jun 25, 2012, 12:03 PM
    Ashleynole5467
    For 3 or 4 months now, but it wasn't official till recently.
  • Jun 25, 2012, 12:12 PM
    Ashleynole5467
    Am I not giving him space?
    I hate when "my guy" will text me and we will talk, but he will randomly stop texting me. It wouldn't bother me so much if he didn't always do it. There are some days that he just doesn't text me at all. I feel like of I don't text him the relationship we have will just be trashed. Also, when I try to hangout he can hardly hangout with me... Am I picking for the wrong guy? :( I'm really crazy about him!
  • Jun 25, 2012, 12:16 PM
    smoothy
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Ashleynole5467 View Post
    I hate when "my guy" will text me and we will talk, but he will randomly stop texting me. It wouldn't bother me so much if he didn't always do it. Their are some days that he just doesn't text me at all. I feel like of I don't text him the relationship we have will just be trashed. Also, when I try to hangout he can hardly hangout with me... Am I picking for the wrong guy? :( I'm really crazy about him!

    You might think he's "your guy"... but its clear he doesn't think of you as "his girl"

    And its not just about you picking him... he's got to pick you as well. How old are both of you?
  • Jun 25, 2012, 12:20 PM
    Ashleynole5467
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by smoothy View Post
    You might think he's "your guy"...but its clear he doesn't think of you as "his girl"

    And its not just about you picking him...he's got to pick you as well. How old are both of you?

    We are both 16.
    He said that we are "talking" what you do before dating... :/
  • Jun 25, 2012, 12:25 PM
    smoothy
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Ashleynole5467 View Post
    We are both 16.
    He said that we are "talking" what you do before dating... :/

    He sees you as just a friend then... nothing more at this point. That might change yet... either way. Just at this point he's not yet considering you as a girlfriend.
  • Jun 25, 2012, 12:44 PM
    Homegirl 50
    Do you see other people, does he see other people?
    Ask him where he thinhks the relationship is headed.
    Ask him if he would like to be dating.
  • Jun 25, 2012, 01:32 PM
    Ashleynole5467
    No, just me. We talked literally all night last night on the phone. He says he really likes me, but should I make the first move?
  • Jun 25, 2012, 01:33 PM
    Ashleynole5467
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by smoothy View Post
    He sees you as just a friend then....nothing more at this point. That might change yet...either way. Just at this point he's not yet considering you as a girlfriend.

    Should I try to bring it up and or ask him out? Or is that really stupid?
  • Jun 25, 2012, 01:48 PM
    Homegirl 50
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Ashleynole5467 View Post
    I hate when "my guy" will text me and we will talk, but he will randomly stop texting me. It wouldn't bother me so much if he didn't always do it. Their are some days that he just doesn't text me at all. I feel like of I don't text him the relationship we have will just be trashed. Also, when I try to hangout he can hardly hangout with me... Am I picking for the wrong guy? :( I'm really crazy about him!

    Given this, I would not approach him. He has shown you that he is not interested in dating.
    It is really hard to help you when you post different questions. Keep this in one spot so we can get the total picture.
  • Jun 25, 2012, 01:51 PM
    Ashleynole5467
    I'm sorry. I just don't understand. Why do guys say they like you, when they don't?
  • Jun 25, 2012, 01:57 PM
    Homegirl 50
    They may like you, but not the way you like them. Sometimes they say they like you, but as an option, not as their "girl". Sometimes they say they like you to get in your pants.
    Go by what they do, not so much what they say. His actions are showing you are not that important to him.
    Don't ask him out. It makes you look desperate and he could really take advantage of that.
    I'd leave him alone. Don't waste anymore of your time with him.
  • Jun 25, 2012, 01:59 PM
    Ashleynole5467
    Thank you so much! (:
  • Jun 25, 2012, 02:03 PM
    Homegirl 50
    You're welcome young lady.
    I wish you well
  • Jun 25, 2012, 02:51 PM
    smoothy
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Ashleynole5467 View Post
    Should I try to bring it up and or ask him out? Or is that really stupid?

    Since these were two merged threads... and you asked me specifically before the merge.

    I would not ask... the answer is likely to be one you don't want. I really don't see much of an indication from his actions he would be receptive to that.

    No problem with a girl asking a guy... but I think it's a better idea to wait until there is real indications of interest. Otherwise hurt feelings usually result.
  • Jun 25, 2012, 02:58 PM
    Ashleynole5467
    Thank you. That actually helps a lot!(:
  • Jun 30, 2012, 09:30 PM
    shishi26
    Personally id let him text me once in a while and when he pulls the whole why didn't u text me bull. Be like the phone works two ways hun. Keep yourself busy in the process and every once in a while when your conversation dies down don't text him back! Put your foot down! If it still bothers you bad enough then talk to him. Most likely he will say something first. This is a small dose of a test to see how much he really is into you. Good luck!
  • Jun 30, 2012, 09:32 PM
    shishi26
    Talk to him less make him question things. And when the time and questions are right explain to him exactly how u feel in a summary.

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