I can’t figure out why I can’t get in the mood. It’s ruining my relationship. I use to want it then I had our little girl and past 2 half yrs. It’s been same way. He wants it a lot. I give it to him even though I'm not in mood. I know I make him feel horrible but I don’t know what to do or why I’m like this I’m not taking any meds nothing. I do know all I want to do is sleep all the time. He’s upset with me. I love my husband so much I am attracted to him I just don’t show it through sex. I want to go to him for sex but how when I’m not in the mood he’s to the point where he wants to go elsewhere which makes me feel like crap. He doesn’t like using toys or watching anything. I thought about spicing it up but everything I say it’s wrong to do or use. Please help my relationship?

Maybe its him who cannot turn you on, and maybe your tired running after a 3 year old. Maybe its him who needs to spice things up, and not just in the bedroom, and maybe, just maybe you don't need those threats of getting it elsewhere.

Maybe you have a selfish lover, who blames you, and sex is a chore you don't enjoy. Maybe its him, not you, and you should tell him he is a selfish b@stard. Maybe next time he threatens to get it somewhere you tell him to go and not come back.

No honest communications, no healthy relationship.

He sounds like a bully. Is he?