I have been involved with a man for over 3 1/2 years and we have a 2yr old son.He is my best friend and I love him but the problem is that he is married.. I didn't find out until after our son but I was so in love and I stayed anyway.. He spends everyday with us but he still lives there.I told her about us but it's like she doesn't care.They don't have a child together but we do.We argue about this a lot and I want him to end the relationship with one of us.He tells me that he has to do it when he is ready and he doesn't want to feel forced into doing so. It has caused a lot of hurt on my part towards him.. The man that was once my best friend seems like a distant memory.My family tells me different advice.I have other kids as well and they love him to death.. We all loved him very deeply when we found out everything.. What should I do? I want someone's honest opinion?

Wow that's a lot I can understand the hurt you feel cause it's can of like you was tricked into falling in love because you had no idea he was married.. now you have his child and that makes it even more harder.. but you can't wait for him to make the discison cause he's a man and if it's left up to him he'll continue to play to different roles what man doesn't want to have his cake and eat it to... and his wife is just as dumb because she knows and can careless because she has the ring so she feels confident he's not going anywhere.. you have to put your foot down enough is enough it's bad enough he lled to get what he thought he wanted now he has a baby with you and still no changes you can't want that know woman deserves that leave that mess alone don't be stupid sticking

To this man who comes and plays house with you then goes home to his wife then your there alone with y'all child your comfortable sharing a man? Cause trust me he sleeping with someone else... my advice leave him alone put his .on childsurport and leave it be... wake up sweetie do you really want to be with ths man the same you met him is what you going to get he cheated on his wife with you what makes you think he won't do the same to you? Leave his no good alone

Dump him, get child support, set visitation, be good parents, get a life without him. In that exact order. Not to be harsh, but its not completely his fault he rules your life, and makes misery for you, because you let him.

I argree^^^

You were with him how long and did not know he was married, sorry , bull, you never once went home with him, you never wondered why he had to go "HOME" at times

He is not going to ever leave his wife, he has you both, why should he give one up.

I hope you are well paid, since you are nothing but the mistress, you are suppose to get your bills paid, that is how being the other women works,

You were with him how long and did not know he was married, sorry , bull, you never once went home with him, you never wondered why he had to go "HOME" at times

He is not going to ever leave his wife, he has you both, why should he give one up.

I hope you are well paid, since you are nothing but the mistress, you are suppose to get your bills paid, that is how being the other women works,