I am 17 and I don't masturbate it upsets me when he does?xx

Why deny him a perfectly healthy way to release and relax? Is his hand a potential rival?

Why would it upset you?

Why is that upsetting to you and why should he promise you he doesn't do it?

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Originally Posted by Homegirl 50

Why is that upsetting to you and why should he promise you he doesn't do it?

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He used to watch a lot of porn and I am scared he still does, I don't ask him to promise he does it himself, should I believe him? I don't think it would bother me so much without porn?x

Then maybe you should take a trip to the sex shop and get yourself a vibrator and start masturbating yourself, don't you think your behavior is a bit selfish?

I don't think you ought to try yourself it if you don't want to, (there are some people who are just not in to masturbation) but if you think your boyfriend has a serious problem with porn (and a lot of guys do) and it bothers you, maybe you and he are not going to work as a couple.

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I don't think you ought to try yourself it if you don't want to, (there are some people who are just not in to masturbation) but if you think your boyfriend has a serious problem with porn (and a lot of guys do) and it bothers you, maybe you and he are not going to work as a couple.

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Good point Homegirl :)

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Originally Posted by chan94

I am 17 and I don't masturbate it upsets me when he does?xx

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Hello c:

You're the abnormal one here.. Get on board with the rest of us and it won't upset you.

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Of course he does, and he is lying to you to make you happy, and not fight over it.

At 18 unless he has no use of his arms and hands he is maturbating some. When you give him no choice to do something all men do some, he has one option fight with you over it or lie to you.

He should have stood up for his rights, but figures you can't find out at this point and he can fight with you about it latter

The thing is he asked me could he masturbate whilst I am there to make me feel a little more comfortable and it'd make him feel better if I was there because then he won't have an urge to do it on his own because he mainly thinks about me whilst doing it and wishes I am there?
There is a try for everything lol can you give me some advice please!! :D

There is too much in life to be worried about; this is such a small issue. Please don't make it a deal breaker for either one of you. So he masturbates when you aren't there, he says he is thinking of you when he masturbates, that is a compliment.

Here's my advice: try not to control his life.

Stop being so closed minded, he is your boyfriend, not your dog, stop trying to control him.

You need to stop trying to control his life. There is nothing wrong with what he is doing, he's thinking of you when he does it, and he should not have to ask your permission.
You are not his mother, you're his girlfriend. Get over yourself.

Its something normal!. you should not be stopping him to do so!. you must understand that this is something which is normal at this age and if you continue denying him, he may feel that you are too authoritative and may cause disturbance in your relationship!.
Don't worry, he does it for his own pleasure!. its like a practical!. it will not affect your couple!. dont not feel disturbed when he does it!. when it comes to it, I'm sure one day, he will stop doing it!. and if you have faith in him and if he tells you that he don't do it, maybe he simply don't do it!.

You shouldn't, because he more than likely does it, but there is nothing wrong with that.

You are sounding very immature, you should know without even asking the question... of course he masturbates and why not look at porn,many people do.Why not look at it together it would improve your sex life... however I do not think you are ready for the reality of a full on relationship and what it involves.Maybe a few years down the line when you have grown up a little.

All I'm going to say to this is..

(sits back) (Sips Coffiee)

There's nothing wrong with masturbation. Maybe your BF just doesn't feel comfortable with you knowing. With all due respect you seem a bit critical of masturbation.He probably doesn't want you to look down on him. If you want to really bond with this person you have to be accepting of who he is. You are still very young though. If you aren't satisfied with this guy, you are in the time of your life when you should explore what it is you want in a mate. Interests, morals, goals, etc.