We have ben in relationship since 3 years and it was the best thing that ever happened to both of us. Though our life changed and we got bad in studies. We had the love that everyone around was jealous of us. There was periods when we had no contact because my parents got to know about him and did not support our relation. During this time both of us felt that helpless love for each other. We used to write letters. Write poems for each other and look at moon at 10 pm together. We called it moon contact and things were more than just great.he used to visit me riding on bike in chilly winters. All my friend used to say that I'm the most lucky girl. But then when our first anniversary was about to come I dropped the contact altogether. I could see and hear from people that he was suffering a lot. His frinds begged me to speak to him but I did not. I was just acting. Rather seeing if he really loved me. I did not even call him on our annvisary and he somehow managed to cntact me the next day and said thati had ignored him long enough and things were over between us. Right away he started smoking heavly and everyone blamed me for this. He was an intellgent guy but because of me he could even qualify a single test. After that when the result of his test were out he was broken. He asked me to come back and eventually I did. I could see he was getting better .he took admission in a college far away then one day he told me that he had lied to me about something. A girl was intrested in him he had said no to her and told her about me but he had flirtd with her. They had even met once. I could not take it. I badly fell to nothing my studies got worse. And like him I failed each time in exams. I forced my parents to send me into the same college that he is in. Had a lot of problems with that but finally I managed. Things got 100 times better and we were so damn happy together again. We love each other like hell. But there was fights between us like every relation. Now presently he is still at college and I'm at home for holidays. He is completely free as I'm. But we don't talk much. He is so busy with his friends that he forgets that he needs to call me. I was so angy with it that I didn't pick up his calls later. He called next day and I still didn't pick up it has been 3 days now and he hasn't calked at all. We could never live without speaking to each other. I feel so bad and wonder what keeps him busy all the time. He is ignorin me in a sense. Shall I call him and break up and do I wait for his call?

You need to run far away from this man. Seriously, he's going to ruin your life. You both are so dependent of one another that it's down right scary. You break up with him he starts smoking? He tells you about that other girl and you can barely pass an exam?

You should have broken up with him a long time ago. If you both keep talking and seeing each other your going to be poison for eachothers lives. Break up with him, and start no contact, don't speak, message, look, or text him, forever. Start moving on with your life, before you further both your feelings, do something stupid and ruin eachothers futures.

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Originally Posted by C0bra_M3nace

You need to run far away from this man. Seriously, he's going to ruin your life. You both are so dependant of one another that it's down right scary. You break up with him he starts smoking? He tells you about that other girl and you can barely pass an exam?

You should have broken up with him a long time ago. If you both keep talking and seeing eachother your going to be poison for eachothers lives. Break up with him, and start no contact, don't speak, message, look, or text him, forever. Start moving on with your life, before you further both your feelings, do something stupid and ruin eachothers futures.

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I did the same. In fact both of us mutually decided to break up and to find something good to do with life. But it all ended up with both of us crying and craving for each other. There were times when he hurt himself badly and times when I felt literally breathless without him. Unable to live without each other we finally decide to compromise on trust and respect and other things. We don't accept it but I know lot of times we compromised on being faithful. We have done enuf to hurt each other so that we never come back but it results to be a failure. We both succumb to this helpless love. But coming back together and forgetting (rather than forgiving) doesn't improve things. We keep on blaming winning and cursing each other. It has become I hell for me. Each time I try to leave him. I come back running.trust me I gave my best effort with full determination. My life seem7 worthless and dull without him.plz help me,how do I forget him. And make him forget me?

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Originally Posted by eeden

i did the same. Infact both of us mutually decided to break up and to find something good to do with life. But it all ended up with both of us crying and craving for each other. There were times when he hurt himself badly and times when i felt literally breathless without him. Unable to live without each other we finaly decide to compromise on trust and respect and other things. We dont accept it but i know lot of times we compromised on being faithful. We have done enuf to hurt each other so that we never come back but it results to be a failure. We both succumb to this helpless love. But coming back together and forgetting (rather than forgiving) doesnt improve things. We keep on blaming winning and cursing each other. It has become i hell for me. Each time i try to leave him. I come back running.trust me i gave my best effort with full determination. My life seem7 worthless and dull without him.plz help me,how do i forget him. And make him forget me?

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The only way to forget, is to go no contact. It's only as hard as you make it. No contact is the best way to go about it, don't speak, text, look, think or message him in any way shape or form. Keep busy and keep your mind off things and eventually your heart will let go. It's going to be tough, but in time you will be happy, and you will love again.