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  • Jun 19, 2012, 11:41 PM
    Tijah
    Is there hope?
    My boyfriend and I were together for 2 yrs. Our relationship started rocky because I wanted kids and marriage and he didn't. But as time passed on he decided that he was ready for a child. So we started planning for a baby. But as time passed he started working more and I saw less of him. This led to arguing and tension between us. Finally when I couldn't take it anymore I broke up with him.

    I was so sad when I made that decision that I knew it was the wrong one but I didn't know what else to do. So the next day I called him telling him I was wrong and I want to make things work and he didn't want to get back together. He was upset and said he wanted us to be apart.

    I am completely devastated and I miss him and I'm still in love with him. We don't talk on the phone unless I call and we have bumped into each other on different occasions and we exchanged small talk. I recently spoke to his cousin and he mentioned that he has asked about me but he has yet picked up the phone to call me.

    We have officially been broken up for 2 months now. I want to know is there hope left for us or should I move on?
  • Jun 20, 2012, 04:19 AM
    C0bra_M3nace
    Relationships aren't meant to be fixed. Second time usually isn't any different, kind of like buying the same chocolate bar twice, hoping the next time it will be better.

    Move on sweetheart, there is someone out there who won't bring tension into your relationship. There is hope, but the hope is for you.
  • Jun 20, 2012, 10:04 AM
    mearbhall
    You couldn't take how he was acting anymore so you broke up with him, but it's clear that that is the reaction he wanted from you. He SHOULD have had the guts to be honest with you and break your heart, not let you break it yourself out of desperation.
    He asked about you because he still cares about you, but he hasn't picked up the phone to ask you himself because he doesn't love you anymore and doesn't want to give you false hope by doing so.
    I KNOW it feels so bad right now, but you have to move on.
  • Jun 20, 2012, 10:30 AM
    talaniman
    Stop chasing after him, stop asking about him, and recognizing that planning a child with out all the long term commitments was a really bad idea. He decided it wasn't what he wanted, and was tired of arguing about it. Tired of lying about having a child, and taking a chance you come up pregnant.

    Yes its time to move on and find some one that want what you want, because clearly he does NOT!!

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