I have been dating this girl for three years, and I can honestly say that I believe she is the love of my life I have never felt this way about a woman in my entire life. We have been off and on for three years mostly on. We took an 8 month break/ break up because of another guy and she ended up coming back to me.

Now in this time I want you to understand that I was her first, she fell madly in love with me, as I did with her, she felt that I was too clingy and obsessive and decided she would be better off with another man. She came back after eight months, and in this time we had both been with other people and I thought that I fell in love with another person but I hadn’t, it was just me striving to find love and to find a replacement for her. I told the girl I had come back to me that I had been with other people as she had told me that she had been with other people and we agreed not to see the people that we had been with.

So as the time went on my girlfriend had gotten pregnant, we both agreed it would be best to get an abortion because we believed that it would be better overall because we could not support it financially and we did not want to give up something like that. So later on I find out that she had hung out with the guy she had been with since me and her were apart at his party with a group of her friends. We almost break up because of this but she convinces me that nothing ever happened between them along with all of her friends. Now later on down the road she begs me to be more affectionate to her like I used to be, but I had a guard up for fear of being hurt again like I was last time. Once I let my guard down she breaks up with me saying that I am too clingy. However she is on the depo shot, which is a birth control that makes you very hormonal and upset, also her mother is bipolar and I am beginning to think that she also is bipolar. She tells me she never wants to see me again.

I’m very upset at this point and call my best friend and hangout with him, and send a naked picture of this girl to my phone. My girlfriend later calls me and tells me she doesn’t want to break up and that she wants me to pick her up and I tell her no, I’ll be there to pick her up later, and she tells me to choose between her or my best friends, and I say both, because at this point I am still very hurt and I want her to feel the same pain I do. Then she says that she swears on our dead baby's life that she hopes to never see me again. I become very pissed a blow up on her to no end. I end up picking her up that night and everything works out.

I forgot that the naked picture of a girl was on my phone who also happens to be one of her friends, she sees the picture and I lie to her and tell her my friend sent it to me because he wanted to cheer me up, she blows up on him and tells the girl in the picture he sent it to me. They are both pissed at him and she does not know if she wants to be with me, she said she would think about it then the next day, my little brother was with me and "accidently" uploaded a naked picture of her onto Facebook which everyone saw, I was asleep when he did this and I deleted it the minute I saw it, she believes that it was my little brother and not me. But it does not help my case in winning her back, the next night I find out that one of her friends and her got in a fight and her friend said that my girlfriend has become a completely different person because all she wants to do anymore is get ****ed up and cheat on the guy she is supposedly in love with.

I call her out on this and she says that it’s because a guy kissed her at a party. I later call her friend to see what was going on and her friend said she said that because she heard that she had been hanging out with the guy that she had been with while we were apart. I ask my girlfriends best friends and they say that she talks about him nonstop and but they do not think she did that. I call her out on it and she denies everything, and today found out that I was the one who sent the picture to myself and now has no idea if she wants to be with me. How do I fix things with her?

On and off is absolutely not a healthy relationship, get away from her and move on. If you have to try and fix things in a relationship, then it's not a relationship worth pursuing.

A healthy relationship, is like building a house with two people. For it to work, both parties need to be on the same page, communicating and working together, or else you'll be running into each other causing problems and delays.

Move on, find a new partner, someone who you work well with and communicate well with, and start building a new house.

I am only going to elaborate what C0bra M3nace has already said.

It is not healthy to have an on and off relationship with someone. Just let her go. You will find someone better.

I must emphasize that "Move on, find a new partner, someone who you work well with and communicate well with." is the most helpful advice for you.

Good luck.

You will always be on and off with this female. That's just the way it is and the only fix you have is to ACCEPT that fact, and live with it, or leave it and her alone, and be permanently OFF!!

I agree it would be better to start fresh on this one. Eight month break because she found another guy then ran back to you? Common, you need to respect yourself more and just move on.